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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-01-25 03:42 pm

[ SECRET POST #2580 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2580 ⌋

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Re: F!S, how does one politely say

[personal profile] badass_tiger 2014-01-25 11:07 pm (UTC)(link)
Do you think so? Like I said, she's kind of sensitive and I'm afraid that if I said that she'd burst into tears/go on a guilty ramble that makes me feel guilty/ignore me. Or should I just not worry too much about her reaction? I don't want to work with her if she's going to be mad at me.

Re: F!S, how does one politely say

(Anonymous) 2014-01-25 11:20 pm (UTC)(link)
Well you've got to decide which would upset you more, to have her try and guilt trip you or her not doing anything for the project.

I really do feel that the way you phrased it is perfect, and as long as you use a gentle non-judgmental tone I think it's fine. She might still cry and freak out, but keep in mind that that's all on her, not you. You haven't done anything to feel guilty about here.

Re: F!S, how does one politely say

(Anonymous) 2014-01-26 01:08 am (UTC)(link)
You gotta ask yourself if you're gonna tell your professor/supervisor/lord-in-charge-idek that she pulled her own weight or if there'll be a peer evaluation and you'd be truthful about it. Because I'd say it's better to tell her now and at least have her do something, rather than let her ride it out 'till the end and then get a (deserved) bad grade.
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Re: F!S, how does one politely say

[personal profile] diet_poison 2014-01-26 01:33 am (UTC)(link)
That's a really awkward situation, but you shouldn't feel responsible for her disproportionate reaction to a really reasonable request.

You could leave out the word "already" if you don't want it to sound confrontational at all, but otherwise I think your first line is fine.