[ SECRET POST #2597 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2597 ⌋

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Re: Burning bridges?

[(Anonymous)]

Mildly uncomfortable? Then I probably wouldn't cut off all contact, but I'd cut way back and try to figure just how much contact I'd be okay with having. But this is for someone whose friendship I had, up until that point, highly valued. For a casual acquaintance, forget it. Life's too short to waste time and energy over "friendships" that just drain you and give nothing in return.

For some really terrible? Cold turkey. I don't think I'm a high maintenance friend. We don't have to talk every day (or week), you don't have to remember my birthday or hold my hair when I'm puking or anything. But you have to be a decent person I can trust, and I don't befriend assholes.

I once stopped being friends with someone who was an Ebay junkie. It's a pet peeve for personal reasons. She had no savings, she couldn't afford to buy crap because she was on a limited income, and she KNEW damn well that there'd come a time in the near future when she and her precious dogs were on the verge of going hungry and cold because she couldn't afford to buy food or pay her bills.

All of that, I didn't hold against her. But what I did hold against her was that she expected ME to validate her buying sprees. I was expected to ooh and ahh over every ugly statue or overpriced knick-knack she bought, even when I knew she'd soon be eating ramen and not taking her dogs to the vet. If I didn't ooh and ahh, she'd get hurt or angry and lash out at me for not being supportive.

I can't be supportive of destructive habits. I won't. If people ask me to be an enabler for their self-destruction and they punish me if I'm not, I'm leaving, because that'll hurt less than being party to someone's stupid decisions.