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Re: Vagina too tight for PIV sex? Or something else?
(Anonymous) 2014-02-16 08:35 am (UTC)(link)It's a pain hiding toys from people you live with. Mine are in a fake book with a mini safe thing inside it.
I do indeed have some advice for anal. More TMI ahead! Probably the first thing I would recommend is a shower. Not just for washing and feeling clean but it's nice to relax your body under the hot water before you start. Sometimes it's nice to masturbate or have my partner play with me beforehand because skipping straight to the prep feels kind of clinical and unsexy to me.
I use a different lube for anal than I do for other things. I think the one I have is silicon-based, and it's fine with the brand of condoms we use but that's something to double check before you purchase. I know oil-based can lead to breakage. I switched because the water-based one wasn't thick (idk how to describe it?) enough for anal.
A weird thing I don't hear much about is I prefer to use gloves when I'm fingering myself or my partner is fingering me back there. The skin feels very thin and sensitive inside and the thought of nails scraping me there makes me nervous. The important thing to do is try to relax. Do not force your way past the initial clenching. It's a natural response. Just touch around the area until you feel ready to try again. When I start, I find it's less painful when I 'bear down' or push against my finger slightly with the muscles there, then work myself open slowly until I feel like I can add another finger.
Probably don't aim for penetrative sex the first time you do this. Just explore at your own pace. I've heard some people find it quite easy but it took maybe a month or two until I wanted more. The position I found most comfortable was spooning on our sides with his leg between mine. We tried a few others, but this and doggy are better for me. Girl on top gives you more control, but I found the penetration too deep.
Good luck with your sex adventure! Don't hesitate if you have more questions. :)