[ SECRET POST #2604 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2604 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Star Trek: The Next Generation]


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03.
[Sherlock BBC]


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04.
[Zero Escape: Virtue's Last Reward]


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05.
[Elementary]


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06.
[SPN]


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07.
[Pacific Rim]


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08.
[Harry Potter]


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09.
[Game of Thrones]


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10.
[Thor: Dark World]


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11.
[Breaking Bad]


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12.
[My Neighbor Totoro]


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13.
[Robocop]


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14.
[Unsounded]


















Notes:

Sorry about the late!

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 051 secrets from Secret Submission Post #372.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

05. http://i.imgur.com/8JRR7JB.png
[Elementary]

[(Anonymous)]

Well, he is pretty hot...

[mekkio]

Maybe if you solved a few cases...

(Seriously, my heart goes out to you.)

[saku]

i'm sorry. i hope things go well for you, and that you find a reliable circle of support.

[(Anonymous)]

As a child of an addict and having other family members who are addicts sometimes you have to pull away for your own sanity. I wish you the best in your recovery and hope you can find the support you need.

[silverr]

Sadly, perhaps it's easier because he's a fictional character, removed from reality, about which they feel no guilt.

[(Anonymous)]

Why should they? It's not always "mom's fault", though addicts and therapists sure do like to throw the blame around.

/no, not the parent of an addict before everyone leaps to conclusions

[(Anonymous)]

Just because they shouldn't doesn't mean they won't, though. When a family member is going through something difficult it's easy to start asking yourself what you could have done to forestall it or make it easier for them. It's not logical, because it's not your fault, but it still happens and it's why it's easier to be invested in the recovery of a fictional person (who will almost certainly recover) than deal with the uncertainty of IRL recovery.

[silverr]

... because sometimes parents feel guilty whether it's "mom's fault" or not.
(BTW, there might be a dad or two involved too ... just saying.) I am a parent, and though I love my kids and am proud of who they are, I'm often berating myself (in the interior monologue sense) that I didn't do even better as a parent. Every time they hit a rough patch and have to deal with pain or disappointment, I wonder if there might have been something I should have done differently when they were babies, something that would have made them better able to handle life's pains and challenges and disappointments, and made it easier for them to develop into the sort of people they want to be.

tl;dr Even when parents do their best they still sometimes feel guilty that they didn't do better.

We care

[elephantinegrace]

Maybe it's because they've grown up with you. I rarely go shopping with family members because I can't for the life of me know whether or not they look good in something. They're just...my mother, or my brother, or whomever. So maybe it's not that they don't care about your recovery so much as they don't see you as an addict?

I don't know your situation, but I'm awed at your bravery and hope your recovery goes well.

[(Anonymous)]

Of course it isn't the same for everyone, but usually there is a lot of pain and resentment for loved ones of addicts. It could be they haven't moved beyond that yet. Or they could be in denial that you're an addict, or that you're in recovery. Have you tried talking to them about it?

I'm sorry for what you're going through, OP. I hope you find the support you need.

[rbhudson]

That's so sad :( I'm sorry, OP

[(Anonymous)]

So, OP, are you actually an addict? Everyone's making that assumption, but you could be recovering from any number of things. Interesting.

That sucks, though, and I'm sorry. I hope there are places you can go and people you can turn to for care and support.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry OP, that sucks. I have some of the exact same issues as fandom characters my friends squirt themselves over, but it's not "endearing" or "interesting" when they're my issues and I don't get a fraction of the interest or sympathy as the goddamn fandom characters from said friends, and it pisses me off sometimes too.

[lunabee34]

Good luck OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Ok, hang on, when you say "they", do you mean YOUR family cares about Sherlock Holmes' recovery, or HIS family does? (Full disclosure: way way way behind on Elementary.)

[(Anonymous)]

For some people, it's easier to "be involved" with someone's life if that person isn't real. Which sucks, but it happens. :\ I'm so sorry, anon, and I hope you can find people who truly support you in your recovery.