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⌈ Secret Post #2609 ⌋

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Re: Friend's Wedding - conflicted feelings

[(Anonymous)]

OP

Don't worry about it, ha. I think this was just as much of a venting post as a request for advice. And it does make me feel better to know that other people struggle with this kind of this too.

Re: Friend's Wedding - conflicted feelings

[inkdust]

It does help to be reminded of that sometimes. Predictably, I try to focus on the things I do have going well, but of course that's never as effective as it should be. The most effective thing I've found, though probably not the healthiest, is to point out to myself all the specific ways that I actually wouldn't want what they have (reasons I couldn't stand to be with their SO, things I would hate about their job) and focus on the details of their situation rather than letting myself see it as a generic "happy relationship" or "fulfilling job" that I envy. They don't have what I want because I don't actually want what they actually have. It's weird and pretty negative, but it's the most reassuring mental gymnastics I've developed so far.