[ SECRET POST #2623 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2623 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

There's two different schools of thought with regards to that. Behavior that is prejudiced or *ist can be demeaning, inappropriate, and worth identifying as such without being any kind of emergency. I wasn't trying to rally anyone to my side or launch a counter-attack by using the word adultist. I was telling the OP that I thought the sentiment they were expressing contained prejudice.

You see it used like this because you're reading conversations in fandom, and these are the most visible examples of adultism in fandom contexts: adults disparaging and avoiding kids with various justifications for doing so.

As I see it, the valid reasons for being afraid of having sexual conversations with minors involve out of date laws that don't take into account the fact that you often can't judge someone's age just by the way they write. I can understand being surprised that someone is underage, especially if you have a set stereotype of what all kids are like and they don't fit it. But being offended and disgusted that they're sharing your fandom is less benign. Accepting the idea that kids explore sex, but getting irate at the thought that they'd become fans of an explicitly sexual canon and go where people who like that hang out ... is like saying "its okay-ness depends on whether it affects me personally." A lot of commenters complained that the kids weren't hiding their age, and I can accept that not having plausible deniability is scary. The OP, though, was grossed out that kids were there at all.

I had two reasons for using the more pointed term. One, this is an attitude that's aimed exclusively at kids. "Aren't you too old to be in fandom?" is a different complaint, and IME one that most of fandom repudiates much more strongly. Two, if you always borrow the more inclusive term, it's easier for people to argue with the part of it that doesn't apply to them. The fact that they don't avoid old people has no bearing on how they treat children, and vice versa.