[ SECRET POST #2632 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Game of Thrones]


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03.
[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]


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04.
[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]


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05.
[Twin Peaks]


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06.
[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]


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07.
[Lily Allen]


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08.
[Attack on Titan]


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09.
[The Brittas Empire]


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10.
[Panic! at the Disco]


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11.
[Frozen]













Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 037 secrets from Secret Submission Post #376.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Let's say you live in a rather small and conservative town, where just about every girl intends to get married and have kids after they graduate, and you'd like to go to college and have a career first. The odds of finding another girl, who accepts your interests and doesn't think that you are a weirdo for not wanting kids right away or ever, fall quite a lot.

Keep in mind that those other girls might not want to be your friends, if you don't adopt their way of thinking.

[(Anonymous)]

I lived in that same sort of town. You know what? I found people (male and female!) interested in the same things I am. Funny what going to a female-run comic book shop in your dinky-sized area will do for that.

Most of them moved away, but I did, too.

[(Anonymous)]

Uh. My town didn't even have a male run comic shop. So...yeah.

[(Anonymous)]

You lived in a small, conservative town where the girls were all interested in getting married and popping out babies, and it somehow managed to have a female-run comic book shop, which is rare even in large, diverse areas?

What a magical place this must have been.

[(Anonymous)]

We're not talking itty-bitty, but 30k? Is pretty small.

The city is basically a military base with a few extra citizens. A lot of military wives are exactly the "get married and pop out babies" type. I've met enough to corroborate this.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah see, my town has 8000 people.

[(Anonymous)]

*shrug* My high school was smaller than that, and very homogeneous in terms of race and economic background. Despite being an introvert, I still managed to make female friends because even in a small sample group, not every woman in it will have the exact same interests.

[diet_poison]

Mine was too, but it had a lot ot do with where I was living.

Also, 30k is a large town if not a veeery small city. It's not a "small town"

[(Anonymous)]

This. My high school graduating class was larger than the population of some towns in the state where I now live. Good luck finding a woman-owned comic store in one of those!

[diet_poison]

Mine too. Our high school hosted some events and I met some parents of other students from towns in my state who said my school was larger than their entire town. There are probably towns smaller than my graduating class, too.

[(Anonymous)]

One of the lab techs at my first workplace was from Hubbard, Iowa, a tiny town in Boone County, where she had a graduating class of 26--but only 24 of them walked, because the other two were in jail. She worked as a lifeguard at the community pool there, and whenever there was a tornado, she and the other lifeguard used to send the kids down to the storm cellar, then stand on the high diving board to watch the storm go by. Hubbard being Hubbard, a good tornado was probably the most exciting event in town for the whole season.

[(Anonymous)]

lol no.

30K is only a small town if you're from New York. For most of us, a small town is a place like Red Oak (pop. 5742), Wapello (pop. 2067), or Villisca (pop. 1252) in my home state. Not to mention Badger (pop. 561), Fertile (pop. 370), or the booming metropolis of Cylinder (pop. 88).

[diet_poison]

30k is not small. And I say that as someone who grew up in a small actual city (Indianapolis). Small is less than 10k, and for some, less than 1k.

[(Anonymous)]

But the boys are okay with your outside-the-box plans? o_O

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, seriously. Who are the girls getting married to?!

[ibbity]

This exactly. I was actively shunned by most of the girls I knew growing up because I didn't fit the perfect mold of the super feminine future farmer's or salesman's wife whose main goal in life was to start having babies by the age of 22 and by middle school were already eyeing potential husband candidates. I had to move to the other side of the state to find a group of female friends who could do better than sort of tolerate my presence. Although I did not have male friends at home either because they weren't looking to waste any time on someone who was obviously not gonna be a "good" wife candidate.

[diet_poison]

That kind of just sounds like a case of "none of these people had anything in common with me" and it wasn't really gendered?

[ibbity]

yeah but the guys just sort of didn't notice I was there whereas the girls were WAY more obvious about their disdain for me. Also, the ones who used to mock and pick on me for being different were all female.

[diet_poison]

Sounds like a cultural thing, tbqh. Does sound awful. :/

[(Anonymous)]

But how does it follow that you'd somehow end up with more male friends in this hypothetical town? Are they all magically not interested in those exact same things as the unacceptable female friendship candidates due to their being male?