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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-03-18 06:43 pm

[ SECRET POST #2632 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Game of Thrones]


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03.
[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]


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04.
[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]


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[Twin Peaks]


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[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]


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[Lily Allen]


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[Attack on Titan]


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[The Brittas Empire]


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10.
[Panic! at the Disco]


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[Frozen]













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Re: Skeevy Rom-com Movies

(Anonymous) 2014-03-19 04:10 am (UTC)(link)
I did, and that wasn't the message at all. You are reading things that you want to see into it. The message is that you should be with someone who likes you for who you are and not for who they want you to be. Their entire relationship was characterized by him putting her up on a pedestal and by her telling him his dreams were stupid/unimportant. They were shitty for each other.

No, she shouldn't have been called "the devil" (although that was emotional hyperbole; I've called exes worse), but I do think that she should have been shot down (I'm also someone who thinks that cheating is a deal-breaker. I don't give a shit what the circumstances are -- if you cheat, then you don't deserve any sympathy when your relationship falls apart). The scene where he decides once and for all that he no longer wants to be with her is one in which she responds to him not being able to get it up by berating him and asking him what's wrong with him. Do you honestly think that's okay for someone to do?

Re: Skeevy Rom-com Movies

(Anonymous) 2014-03-19 01:41 pm (UTC)(link)
No, I forgive the most problematic shit most of the time if I can find a better message and give the writers the benefit of the doubt about it. I never see bad messages unless they are really, undeniably there. You're the one who's seeing what you want to see.

And doesn't he respond to her berating him for not getting it up by forcing her to suck him off? She's not the worse one there.

Re: Skeevy Rom-com Movies

(Anonymous) 2014-03-19 03:22 pm (UTC)(link)
And doesn't he respond to her berating him for not getting it up by forcing her to suck him off? She's not the worse one there.

Ooooookaaaaay. On the off-chance that you're not trolling, when he's having trouble getting it up, she offers to go down on him to see if that'll work. It's at that point, when he still can't get it up, that she berates him and asks him what's wrong with him. He responds not by forcing her to continue, but by...leaving.

Do you think all blow-jobs are coercive, even if initiated by the giver? Is that where you got that impression?

I dunno, man. It really sounds like you decided the movie was sexist simply because it was about a man having trouble getting over an ex, especially since you had been thinking that from the very start of it.