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fandomsecrets2014-03-18 06:43 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2014-03-18 06:43 pm
[ SECRET POST #2632 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Game of Thrones]
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03.
[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]
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04.
[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]
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05.
[Twin Peaks]
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[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]
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07.
[Lily Allen]
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[Attack on Titan]
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[The Brittas Empire]
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10.
[Panic! at the Disco]
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11.
[Frozen]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 037 secrets from Secret Submission Post #376.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: SA
(Anonymous) 2014-03-19 03:25 pm (UTC)(link)One of the reasons it's been so hard for me to form stable friendships is because people treating me like a human being and genuinely caring about me is frightening. I'm used to there always being some ulterior motive, so whenever someone starts getting close and friendly, that's the first thing my mind jumps to. Wondering what they want, what they're using me for. Because that's the pattern I learned; people are only nice to me when they want something.
When someone's affection is unconditional -- when there isn't an obvious "something" that I'm giving them in exchange for it -- my brain freaks out and starts trying to attach conditions to it. Because while unconditional affection is a great thing to normal people, to me, that just means I can be dropped and abandoned anytime (and my brain then convinces itself I probably will be since there's nothing I'm offering in return, so I start withdrawing from them first).