[ SECRET POST #2638 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2638 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Spoiled Rotten?

[lunabee34]

this is something I think about a lot without coming up with a cogent answer.

The nature vs nurture debate is still alive and well for a reason. For instance, my elder daughter is extremely well-behaved, kind and ambitious and respectful. Some of her good behavior can be attributed to our parenting, I think, and some of it is just her and whatever was in her from birth.

One of the things that has astonished me, though, is seeing how early on troubling personality characteristics manifest in childhood. I didn't expect for the cliques to start at five. Or the bullying. Or the anger management issues. Or any of a myriad of other issues I've seen in the children my elder daughter has interacted with over the years. Some of that bad behavior is attributable to parenting (when you don't put kids to bed at a reasonable hour, remembering that twelve hours of sleep a night is pretty much what elementary school kids need, and let them eat sugar all day, bad behavior pretty much follows), but some of it just innate.

So IDK. I don't think every person who turns out shitty is shitty because her parents fucked her up. I don't think every person who turns out awesome does so because her parents rocked. I do think parenting plays a vital role, though, in where somebody falls on that continuum.