[ SECRET POST #2643 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2643 ⌋

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Comments

Re: fandom friend advice

[(Anonymous)]

I can understand feeling a bit miffed here, but there really is no good way to say, "Friend, I want to keep venting my opinions to you instead of posting them myself, but I don't want you to post any of the things we talked about because I feel like you're getting credit for my good ideas, the same ideas I don't want to share."

You could totally say this if the topics you discussed were personal and confidential in nature, but... they're not. You guys are just talking about public stuff and your individual opinions. Even if she doesn't initially share your opinion, if your discussion means she changes her mind and now your opinions are her opinions you really do not have the right to tell her she can't share her opinions because you had them first. They're ideas. Nobody gets to keep ideas all to themselves. The way I see it, you've got three options:

1) Have that awkward chat with your friend about getting partial credit. You don't want her to mention you by name, just acknowledge that her posts were inspired by a discussion with an unnamed friend.

Pros: You get your credit-without-names for your ideas! She still gets to post her opinions!
Cons: It makes you sound just a tiny bit douchebaggy. "I want credit for those good ideas you couldn't come up with on your own" is never going to sound nice. Never.

2) Do nothing.

Pros: Really easy and effortless. Bonus points if you could learn to feel like this doesn't matter, that ideas are and should be free and shared with anyone who wants them, and that you are a secure, well-rounded person who realizes that tumblr reblogs don't actually mean anything in real life and that if you wanted something as trivial as headpats from total strangers on tumblr, you could have them.
Cons: Potential source of resentment because in your head, it feels like your friend is using you for your ideas. Friendship blows up because again, in your head, this feels like stealing.

3) Stop venting to your friend.

Pros: Your friend can no longer mine your opinions for tumblr points. If she's unable to form these favorable opinions and insightful commentaries without you as you say, then her rise to tumblr fame is dead in the water.
Cons: You'll have to find someone else to vent to, or start a private journal and be satisfied with not having an audience for your opinions. Have the cake or eat the cake? You get to make that call.