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⌈ Secret Post #2649 ⌋

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[AlternateHistory.com : Malê Rising]

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[Amelie]

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11. [SPOILERS for Superior Spider-Man]

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12. [SPOILERS for Believe]

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13. [WARNING for rape]

[Orwell]

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[Colditz]

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15. [WARNING for child molestation]

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Regarding "phases": not quite sure if this is what you meant, and I might tangent on your tangent, but I'm bi and in a steady, long-term monogamous relationship with a dude -- my first real-feeling relationship. That said, my sex drive turns way way way the hell up around my periods, and some times, walking down the street, it's like ALL I SEE ARE PRETTY WOMEN oh man she smiled at me oh God I'm terrible, and other times CUTE DUDES EVERYWHERE argh nice laugh oh God I'm terrible (x50 bonus if it's someone I know or see regularly. Once in a great while everyone is fucking beautiful and I just gotta sit down and drink some cold water.) I've learned to just kind of note what's happening when it happens, but when I first really acknowledged these thoughts (and they seriously kicked into overdrive about 5 years after my first period, so I didn't connect the two right away), it was so. damn. confusing. Add on that the hardest stop I could figure out was to imagine any part of a romantic/sexual relationship with any of the people that I saw, and it was just a mental clusterfuck figuring out what the hell I liked or wanted. It's not like the dominating gender neatly alternated or even stayed consistent each time. But when I finally felt comfortable calling myself bi, I worried that these shifting feelings made me somehow not "bi enough"; like I'd be called out for overlooking an attractive woman because I'm weirdly set on men this week or vice-versa (but the former seems especially big now that I'm in a het relationship). And it can get weird when my brain is like LADIEEES and my dude staunchly remains not one. For peace of mind, though, I'm self-identifying with the larger trend over the short-term fluctuations. Anyway, tl; dr: I am, clearly, a bisexual werewolf. And yeah, that yana with things not always being super clear-cut.

Hahaha bisexual werewolf. Yeah, basically I have this nagging nervousness that whichever gender I'm in a relationship with, I'll start being more draw to the opposite, because that's what happened before. But I keep telling myself I can't draw conclusions based on one relationship, and that experience is further skewed because I wasn't really attracted to my girlfriend, and sometimes lied to myself about that and sometimes didn't. That's a whole other thing. I've just noticed a trend in myself where for several months I only notice / focus on guys (ex. the first six months after my relationship ended) and then something changes and I only notice / focus on girls (the past two years). I really just want to feel open to both at once or to develop a significant leaning and stay that way. Right now I have this pretty pronounced leaning toward women but I don't feel like I can trust it to be consistent.

ayrt

I think I understand that sort of nervousness (tbh I feel like it crossed my mind more often when I first identified, and then, like, an absorbed accumulation of bisexual stereotypes would scroll by in slow-mo in my mind in different situations), but as you wrote, for you it's based on just your single, skewed experience. I don't know, what I've done in my current relationship when I have that specific mental disconnect, and which seemed much more insurmountable when we started out and shortly after went long-distance for a good chunk of time, was to go down the path of weighing the disconnect against the relationship we were building. But I admittedly didn't feel concerned that said disconnects would last, or make sex or the rest of the relationship completely unsustainable or unenjoyable, which could be different for you. Whatever happens, I wish you all the luck in navigating the weirdness that is human sexuality.

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