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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-04-04 06:57 pm

[ SECRET POST #2649 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2649 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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04. http://i.imgur.com/eD4bGbG.jpg
[frozen, full nudity]


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[AlternateHistory.com : Malê Rising]


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[Amelie]


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11. [SPOILERS for Superior Spider-Man]



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12. [SPOILERS for Believe]



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13. [WARNING for rape]

[Orwell]


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14. [WARNING for rape]

[Colditz]


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15. [WARNING for child molestation]


















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Re: But where does non-romantic love fit into this?

[personal profile] nyxelestia 2014-04-07 06:13 am (UTC)(link)
Therein lies a problem: I've had to fight tears when hearing about deaths of people I never knew (i.e. deaths on the news from major armed conflicts, exploited labor deaths from working with Human Rights Watch, etc.)...then I was completely apathetic when my own grandfather died - and while we were never close, I was a lot closer to him than to random people on the other side of the planet I've never met in my life.

Meanwhile, I can't just think about something to engender a feeling. I don't feel anything at the thought of losing someone, or the memory of them, even if I know (in the case of memories) I sure as hell felt something back then. I don't feel anything now, and as such I don't really trust my imagined feelings for hypothetical situations.

I fully expect that I will eventually drift away from my current set of friends and boyfriend due to different circumstances and life plans and am apathetic to that possibility for its own sake, but I feel a vague sense of guilt that the ones who lean heavily on me right now may need someone in the future and I will not be there. I have no problem with drifting far away enough from my parents that I never speak to them again, but dread the idea of them being unhappy or hurt. I really, really want all my families' pets to be taken care of and treated well, but I don't want to do that myself.

All of this goes back to my original problem - the criteria that people keep using to try to define love never quite seem to fit or help because somehow, they're asking about what type of fruit is hanging from the tree while my problem is a vegetable in the ground.