[ SECRET POST #2659 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2659 ⌋

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Comments

Re: I think I might've accidentally asked a coworker out

[fingalsanteater]

Yeah, like herpy said, might've mentioned that social situations make you nervous in your first post because I would've answered totally differently. You kind of came of as a dude who didn't want to go out with a girl he didn't like just because as opposed to a dude that is just really nervous about social situations.

"Normal people" such as myself do have these nagging fears because most people have some fears related to social situations. When you are in a group do you let others in the group do the talking? If you do some talking when you are in groups, just take that experience and transfer it. What do you talk about? Work? Personal stuff? The atmosphere of the place? So now you are talking like it's a group outing, but it's only you and her. How well do you know her? Try to get to know her better. Ask her about work stuff. Are you drinking? Ask her what drinks she likes. You can pull this off and I think you will have a lot of fun.

Re: I think I might've accidentally asked a coworker out

[(Anonymous)]

Also, how you position yourself at the table makes a difference. Sit beside or at an angle, rather than across from her, and that will make eye-contact less fraught.

Re: I think I might've accidentally asked a coworker out

[fingalsanteater]

Yes! This really helps too. If you are going to a bar, maybe sit at the bar?

Re: I think I might've accidentally asked a coworker out

[(Anonymous)]

Seems like his lack of social skills extended to not expecting people to be a dick to him from the getgo, or we might've got the full teal deer instead of the highlights.

Re: I think I might've accidentally asked a coworker out

[(Anonymous)]

Well, here's the thing: if you* post something that makes it sound like you're going to be rude to someone you invited out just because you don't want to date them, then people are probably going to be a bit terse in their replies.




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Re: I think I might've accidentally asked a coworker out

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Well, yeah, that's the thing. That-general-you expects people to take things the wrong way. This guy apparently didn't see that coming.