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F!S Anon Meme (the Tenth?)

Secrets, rants, opinions, anything you want to say about your fandom or a fandom or fandom in general, do it here! Anonymously, of course. Get it all off your chest.

Some ground rules:
1. Going anon is encouraged but not absolutely required (for those who struggle with captchas and stuff).
2. No autoplaying/autolooping embeds, or embeds that cover/stretch the screen.
3. No dropping personal info or IRL contact info, etc.

That's about it!

List of General Threads (for easy access!)
a. Vid Rec thread
b. Positivity thread
c. What do you think of other F!S members?
d. Best Comments thread
e. Canceled Shows thread
f. Confessions thread
g. TMI thread
h. Which fictional character would you be...
i. "Is this offensive?"
j. In the good ol' days of fandom...
k. Popular fanfic you don't like
l. Really weird things you read in fanfics

Comments

Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Fess up.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I'm always kind of afraid to voice something like a strong negative opinion at first (I still do it but I get nervous after I post it) because I'm afraid people will look at it and go "welp she's a jerk".

I was surprised when I didn't get yelled at for being a little hostile about my pet peeves yesterday.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I LOLed at the whole 'China destroys her dainty clit' secret.
Then I Googled China's clit.
I didn't LOL anymore.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

okay ....I want to confess something. First of I always have very strong emotions.

Second....right now IRL my grandmother is dying and I'm really scared...I'm scared of how I'm going to handle it I'm scared of seeing how others react and everything about just scares me. I'm really stressed out a lot and I sometimes just randomly for a bit.

I'm sad, and I'm afraid. and I'm probably being selfish for worrying about that while everyone is going through this.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

In my late teens I used a different username in order to deliver detailed and rather scathing criticism (I hesitate to call it 'flames' as I usually began with 'the premise of this fic is really interesting but I think you could maybe look at >example of them spelling the characters' names wrong<, >examples of serial continuity issues< >examples of simply dreadful prose<).

I stopped and now only criticize vaguely without identifiers on twitter.

I am unsure if this is a better move, or a worse one. On the one hand I am no longer potentially hurting people's feelings. On the other hand I am no longer seeking to improve the quality of fic in my fandoms. It's a little like I have given up hope.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I've gotten to a point with my former HS best friend where I don't even... care that we're drifting. I care more that I don't care more. I mean, I wouldn't want to lose touch with her forever, but at the same time I have no desire to hang out with her, and when we do I have nothing to say to her. But it sucks that I'm just letting my last real high school friendship (let's not count Facebook) slip through the cracks. :/

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I used to be the biggest bitch I knew and I didn't know I wasn't being nice.

Thank goodness for the person who pointed it out to me.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I have only one really good friend (be it online or IRL) and I sometimes worry we'll drift apart. :| We've been friends for, like, almost five years now, too.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I had an anxiety attack because my OTP wasn't canon in a fic once (the writer usually wrote my OTP and didn't warn for it)

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like I will never be with a guy who won't cheat on me. Every relationship I've ever been in has ended this way. I'm almost thirty, so it's not a 'teenagers' thing. I know not all men cheat, it just feels that way to me now. I wish true monogamy wasn't that hard to find. Or at least someone who knows dating someone means you don't go fucking around the second another woman is willing to sleep with you. :(

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Every time a celebrity comes out as gay, I can't help but think their primary reason is to revive their career in some capacity. I've actually started hiding these announcements on social media because they make me roll my eyes so much.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

My girlfriend has a fandom tattoo and I really don't like it. Not because it's fandom, but because it's rather badly done. She's expressed interest in getting another one of a character that's easily drawn badly. I really hope I don't have to go to bed with another bad tattoo.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I invited my boyfriend over for a weekend. He thinks the only reason was for sexy happy fun time.

The truth is that I was panicking over being over two weeks late and that, despite the fact that we practice very safe sex and that I've never been regular anyway, I was in total INSANITY mode about how we must be in those 2% who somehow still manage to get pregnant, and obviously that must be it because of those vague feelings of being ill and frequent urination and all those other "Early pregnancy signs" that are pretty much ... well, everyday things.

Fortunately, my period finally arrived (oh, the irony) just as I was about to pee on a stick.

I was so relieved that I called my friend over to join us for drinks in the evening and we had a ridiculous little "YAY! NOBODY'S PREGNANT!" happy dance party in the kitchen while we were "going to find the corkscrew" and I decided not to tell him at all.

I am almost 30. I'm embarrassed that I never thought to have a contingency plan and for being so ... sitcom teenager about this. I should actually chart my cycle so I know how much variation is normal for me. I should have had a contingency plan. I should have a regular gynecologist. I should maybe finally be an adult and talk to my guy about what we both want in life so that I'd have a better feel for how he'd react to hearing me ask him to hold my hand through either choice. :/

So, all day I've been waffling between feeling bad for failing so hard at being a responsible adult and feeling ridiculously relieved that I don't have to be one yet.

Re: Confession Thread

[blunderbuss]

I keep having dreams lately that involve an abusive family member and I keep realising somehow that it's a dream so I can finally get revenge without getting in trouble. I know that this is not healthy.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I just read the TV Tropes pages for Snark Bait and Periphery Hatedom, and I feel really shitty because some of my fandoms appear in the examples. Sometimes I forget that I'm so outside the target range of some of my fandoms that maybe I should be a little ashamed of it, and I should not assume that people on the Internet aren't going to judge me.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I got misgendered somewhere and it felt... pretty good.

Not because of any underlying gender issues - I'm cis and feel no desire to change that. There's just something nice about not being tied to your physical identity, not having all the identifiers and baggage that comes with existing in real life.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I feel really bad that I cut out some people in my life because of a friend that I had at the time. I felt like I had to cut them out just because otherwise I'd be 'offending' my friend if I remained attached to them somehow. Now I realize that I can talk to whoever I like no matter what history they might have with a mutual friend.

I kind of wish that I could at least apologize to some of those people. I don't need to be friends with them again, but I want to at least inform them that I now know what I did was wrong, and that I regret my actions.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I'm really more fucked up as a person than I let on, but I cover for it by speaking fairly eloquently and by still having level-headed conversations.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I've been using the OkCupid "Quick Match" to just give everyone 5 stars. I don't even read the profiles, half the time the pictures haven't even loaded before I'm onto the next one.

I only feel slightly bad about it. I never got messages before. If someone messages me because I rated them 5 stars, then I read their profile and respond to them. I've been doing this for a week and already made one friend. It's a lot less frustrating than sending messages out into the void.

Re: Confession Thread

[ex_mek82]

I feel incredibly bad about a reply I made to an anon a while back (It had to do with 5 Seconds of Summer, iirc)... in hindsight, I'd phrased it really harshly and I wrote it in haste via e-mail reply during my lunch break (no excuse, though). Considering how I sometimes get upset whenever someone takes a vitriolic diss at something I like, that was incredibly thoughtless of me to do.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I've never read and/or watched Harry Potter.

Because it needs to be said again forever and ever.

[(Anonymous)]

The long and short of it that the people who hate social justice the most are people who do not benefit from the disadvantaged speaking up for themselves. Frankly, white people/men, asking you to behave like a fucking human being instead of a disgusting sub-human is not a personal attack. It's a request for the courtesy you offer only to people you feel deserve it.

If you don't think that everyone should have homes, food, jobs, and health care, you can go fuck yourself and pat yourself on the back that you won the lottery on where you just happened to be born.

As for the pro-social justice people who simply go overboard and make people, even people affected by the cause in question or are legitimate allies, please go sit the fuck down. It is hard enough as it is to get these idiots to stop paying attention to themselves and their goddamn cell phones for two seconds without you lot screaming the loudest.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I spent a long time hating people in my old fandom. Like, a lot. :( It took a while to get past most of it. I still don't dare go back down that rabbit hole. It became poison for me. It makes me really sad that something so fun as fandom could become like that.

B!S: I wasn't the only one. The fandom had a lot of people who ended up having to escape

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I've noticed FS people are more likely to reply to my comment if I post anon...

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I can't mail a box of chocolates and bath stuff to a professional acquaintance in Japan because I want to write the perfect companion letter, but I'm so frustrated and afraid of failure that I keep procrastinating.

It's been a year and three months now. I need to buy new chocolates. These are probably stale. And now that it really has been over a year, should I even bother to send it? She's probably forgotten! Sending them would remind her, and prove to her yet again that I'm an unreliable perpetually late flake. D=

I hate that I'm such a flake with this person. I want her to like me so much that I mess up and don't do anything in fear of making it worse and IDEK. The last time I had a chance to turn a professional in my field into a friend, I unknowingly put my foot in my mouth, and now I'm terrified I'll do it again.

Stupid anxiety. :cries: