[ SECRET POST #2670 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2670 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Dan Vs.]


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03.
[Mysterious Cities Of Gold]


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04.
[Sherlock]


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05.
[Drazen Bratulic]


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06.
[Captain America]


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07.
[Smash]


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08.
[El Goonish Shive]


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10. http://i59.tinypic.com/2eebuv6.jpg
[porn, Frozen, illustrated]


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11. [SPOILERS for Shameless US]



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12. [WARNING for suicide]



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13. [WARNING for rape]



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14. [WARNING for domestic violence]



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15. [WARNING for rape/sexual assault]














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Comments

Re: Giving co-workers rides?

[nyxelestia]

To be honest, I doubt that there really is any way to subtly get her to take the hint - and quite frankly, that sort of thing comes off as more passive aggressive than just flat-out telling her "I can't give you rides that much/any more".

Mostly, I'd just suggest telling her that you can't be the one to give her rides all the time, and ask her to see if she can get some rides from other co-workers so she's not relying on any one person to get to work. And hell, just say that as much as you like her, you can't really deal with having someone rely on you like that. Or, just tell her giving her a ride tends to create a lot of small bumps in a smooth routine for you - all of them small, but all of them adding up to make giving her a ride a hassle for you. As much as you like her*, you need her to find some other coworkers or methods of transportation. (Don't say 'you would appreciate it' - that makes things even more awkward than they already are.)

If possible for you: I do suggest saying that you don't mind giving her a ride when she's running late, bad weather (if it's public transportation), or when her usual ride is unavailable. Hell, if you can, maybe just say that once or twice a week you can still give her a ride, but the rest of the time she needs to find some other way to get to work. Explain that you don't mind giving rides every now and then, but you don't carpool and hadn't expected to be in a carpool situation when she first started asking for a ride. Tell her that when she looks for rides with other co-workers, she should explain upfront that she's looking for a regular carpool arrangement and not just a ride in a pinch.


* = whether you actually do or not; saying it might save you some problems down the road (no pun intended)

Hopefully that helps. :)