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⌈ Secret Post #2677 ⌋

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[The Scribbler]

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[bioshock infinite: burial at sea]

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[True Detective]

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[fire emblem/super smash bros]

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[World of Warcraft]

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12. [SPOILERS for Hannibal]

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13. [SPOILERS for Bioshock: Infinite]

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15. [WARNING for rape/abuse I'm assuming? Ramsay/Theon stuff]
http://i.imgur.com/Xo0GSkI.png

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16. [WARNING for mental illness/hospitals]

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17. [WARNING for depression]

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18. [WARNING for eating disorders]

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19. [WARNING for rape]

[Game of Thrones]

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self harm, body issues next comment

I just literally had a break down while trying to write a post about wanting to lose weight so I could fit into cute clothes again. wound up cutting again for the first time in five months and scratched the word fat into my arm. i shouldn't be alone but none of my friends are answering texts. i can't call 911, i think id rather die tehn go to a hospital. theyd probably never let me back out

Listen to me, there's nothing wrong with how you look. Only wear things that make you happy, that you like, because you're the only person who matters when it comes to what you wear or how you look. You're not worth any less because of it.

Clean up your wounds, if they're not too serious. If they are then you need to go to the hospital. You don't deserve to hurt, no matter what.

i put anti biotic cream on my arm.

i just want to pretty again. I lost like twenty lb last summer and put them all back on plus five so now Im worse than before. I was 115 once. I just domt want to be the fat girl anymore. I want to wear clothes and know they look cute not look in the mirror or look at picture and see that I just look huge and dumpy.

A few things, weight loss should be done at a steady pace and gradually, second you're not ugly because you're a few pounds heavier than you once were. You shouldn't think so negatively about yourself.

DA

I know that feeling, OP, but don't let those body issues turn into self-hatred. You can work on losing weight and getting into better shape without hurting yourself. Please find a replacement for cutting when you get the urge. Maybe take a brisk walk around the block or run in place or try yoga. It'll get you closer to your goal without self harm. Take care, sweetheart.

Speaking from the perspective of someone who used to do self-harm, including carve words into my skin, start by taking anything sharp and put them somewhere difficult for you to access - give them to someone, put them in a bag and bury them outside, or hell just throw them on the floor of your closet and dump all your clothes on top of them. However, don't throw them away. Give yourself that element of control, even as you make it as difficult for yourself as possible.

As for the more/less practical stuff, because I also know how much I hated it when people acted like cutting was my only problem and never helped with anything else:

I'm not just going to tell you that you're beautiful, because I know I find that sort of thing condescending as hell coming from someone who has no idea what I look like, so I won't do that to you. I do, however, have a pretty good idea for what kind of mind games our culture and our popular media play on us, especially when it comes to weight. As such, I feel pretty confident in saying that you most probably look fine, because the overwhelmingly vast majority of humanity looks perfectly fine the way they are. Maybe you're fat, maybe you aren't. That's really not nearly as relevant as our shared popular media and culture would have you believe.

At just about any size, you can find something that looks good on you. The trick is finding just what that is, and accepting that just because it isn't what you see in a magazine right now doesn't mean it's ugly. Look up body sizes, including things like "plus-size" clothes if you really think that's what you are (though again, I rather doubt you actually are, just based on statistics alone). Go to a store that allows you to try things on, and just try on clothes way out of your usual style until you find something that looks good with the body you've got right now, not what you want. You'll find something. We are all sold an image of beauty that has no bearing on reality beyond making us want to buy unnecessary and usually expensive shit to make us "prettier".

I may not know what you look like, but I know how people in general look like, what they are 'supposed' to look like - and what they think you are supposed to look like. So if I had to guess, I'd guess you look great without hesitating.

(And just to be on the safe side, if you're a troll, fuck you.)

D:

Dude I was with you until the end part

Which end part? Because I don't believe the OP is a troll by default. I'm just wary after one too many instances of something like that actually happening.

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