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fandomsecrets2014-05-02 06:39 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2014-05-02 06:39 pm
[ SECRET POST #2677 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2677 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[The Scribbler]
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[bioshock infinite: burial at sea]
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[True Detective]
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[fire emblem/super smash bros]
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[World of Warcraft]
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12. [SPOILERS for Hannibal]
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13. [SPOILERS for Bioshock: Infinite]
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14. [SPOILERS for Game of Thrones]
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15. [WARNING for rape/abuse I'm assuming? Ramsay/Theon stuff]
http://i.imgur.com/Xo0GSkI.png
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16. [WARNING for mental illness/hospitals]
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17. [WARNING for depression]
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18. [WARNING for eating disorders]
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19. [WARNING for rape]
[Game of Thrones]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #382.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: Moments where your a friend surprised you
When debating a series of issues concerning our ethnic and cultural backgrounds (among other things, namely gender issues), I got into an argument with a very...paranoid/scared friend who didn't like the idea of me making a quick corner store run in the late afternoon/early evening, even though it was in a safe neighborhood and still plenty of daylight out. That led to (very roughly/highly paraphrasing, here), this exchange:
Me: Listen, if I'm at your place, and we need something from the store late at night, I don't mind walking a few blocks in the dark. It's not that risky, here, and I can take care of myself. And I can go by myself. You don't have to escort me or get me an escort, not for a few blocks. And if I get attacked? It's not your fault. You didn't attack me. You know whose fault it will be if I'm out late at night and get attacked?
Her: Yours?
Me: ...no. It'll be the attacker's fault. Because, y'know, they attacked me.
It's just...we've been working so hard and so long to get rid of a let of unhealthy mentalities she's picked up from her culture*, her family, an abusive ex, etc. But seeing how deeply it's ingrained in interactions like that...
I fucking hate how pervasive victim-blaming is. I. Fucking. Hate. It. Especially because this friend exhibits it so much and in such convoluted ways that I end up wanting to punch someone in the face (preferably certain people in her life that have left her with that mentality).
* = as bad as this sounds, a big part of our relationship is that we are of the same ethnicity, but almost no one else in our immediate social group/shared community is, so I'm often the one having to call out her/our culture's unhealthy attitudes and thought processes (of which there are a lot), explain misunderstandings and alternate perspectives, untangle cultural identity issues she has not with herself but with others, etc.