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⌈ Secret Post #2677 ⌋

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[The Scribbler]

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[bioshock infinite: burial at sea]

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[True Detective]

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[fire emblem/super smash bros]

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[World of Warcraft]

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12. [SPOILERS for Hannibal]

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13. [SPOILERS for Bioshock: Infinite]

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14. [SPOILERS for Game of Thrones]

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15. [WARNING for rape/abuse I'm assuming? Ramsay/Theon stuff]
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16. [WARNING for mental illness/hospitals]

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17. [WARNING for depression]

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18. [WARNING for eating disorders]

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19. [WARNING for rape]

[Game of Thrones]

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Can be good or bad, but what what are things your friends have done that made you realize you don't know them as a well as you thought you did.

When a friend who had long disavowed all romantic or sexual interest in me suddenly groped and kissed me.

Ew.

It didn't really gross me out from that specific friend, just really surprised me. But anyway, it never came up again.

The day I found out my friend votes Republican. She's low income, and on WIC and food stamps. Her son attends a free government funded preschool program. Her kids are on Medicaid. She's pro-choice, pro gay rights, etc. etc. But still votes Republican.

Does she vote for Republicans like Romney? Or local Republicans? Because I think there's sometimes a difference. Not to mention there's gay Republicans who clearly aren't against gay marriage.

I'm not saying I wouldn't be surprised too, because I would be - just saying it's not always that simple.

I honestly don't know who she voted for in the last election. I was kind of afraid to ask. I know she votes more "this is the best candidate" then strict party lines, but she does tend to lean more conservative than I would have imagined. I know for a fact her husband did not vote for Obama in 2012 - I don't know if he voted for Romney or not. I know she voted for McCain in 2008, who's not quite as crazy as some of the party.

And I know that there are a lot of Republicans who are pretty pissed about the direction the party is currently going. Including gay Republicans, etc.

It just really surprised and confused me.

My father is extremely liberal in many ways, but he was also almost ready to vote for McCain right up until Palin happened. Hell, even I think that McCain isn't even all that bad, really, when he isn't trying to pander to the Tea Party.

That said, I can see where you're coming from in terms of surprise. I'd say...don't worry so much about it? Local politicians tend to be either super extreme right/left or really mild and open-minded, so it could be that your friend voted for the latter.

This guy friend of mine was a really nice dude. We got along well and I liked his wit. Anyway, he had, like, a lot of power over me so he promised to use his third wish to set me free.

But then he didn't and I got enslaved to some other douchebag which could have all been avoided if I had just been set free with the third wish but nooooo. I mean, he apologized and set me free after but it really did force me to reevaluate him.

Well, there was a time when my best friend at the time... uh, well, a little background: she had recently had some drama with someone that left her really upset, and her telling of the story made me FURIOUS at the other party, so I basically called them out in private and let them have it on her behalf, only to find that my friend had left a lot of details out. I apologized. Since both I and the other party were willing to admit we had not handled things in regards to our mutual friend so well, we actually got to be friends rather than acquaintances.

This new friend later told me, when best-friend-at-the-time was freaking out and refusing to speak to me because I had just started dating someone (a female who was not her; I was NOT surprised by that part), that best-friend-at-the-time had told her aaaaaall about me behind my back, including that the reason she and I weren't dating was because although I was so obviously a lesbian, I was just using the ace thing to "cover it up because she's a Christian and doesn't want to admit she could be gay".

Yeah, so much for my supportive friend who respected my orientation. :P All the more proof I made the right decision in NOT dating her, and instead dating the woman who eventually became my fiancee.

When we disagreed on an issue and she decided that instead of talking it out like a rational human being, she thought it would it be better to insult me instead. That was shitty.

This wasn't really about knowing someone so much as confirming just how deeply affected they'd been by the abuse in the abuse in their life, but:

When debating a series of issues concerning our ethnic and cultural backgrounds (among other things, namely gender issues), I got into an argument with a very...paranoid/scared friend who didn't like the idea of me making a quick corner store run in the late afternoon/early evening, even though it was in a safe neighborhood and still plenty of daylight out. That led to (very roughly/highly paraphrasing, here), this exchange:

Me: Listen, if I'm at your place, and we need something from the store late at night, I don't mind walking a few blocks in the dark. It's not that risky, here, and I can take care of myself. And I can go by myself. You don't have to escort me or get me an escort, not for a few blocks. And if I get attacked? It's not your fault. You didn't attack me. You know whose fault it will be if I'm out late at night and get attacked?
Her: Yours?
Me: ...no. It'll be the attacker's fault. Because, y'know, they attacked me.

It's just...we've been working so hard and so long to get rid of a let of unhealthy mentalities she's picked up from her culture*, her family, an abusive ex, etc. But seeing how deeply it's ingrained in interactions like that...

I fucking hate how pervasive victim-blaming is. I. Fucking. Hate. It. Especially because this friend exhibits it so much and in such convoluted ways that I end up wanting to punch someone in the face (preferably certain people in her life that have left her with that mentality).

* = as bad as this sounds, a big part of our relationship is that we are of the same ethnicity, but almost no one else in our immediate social group/shared community is, so I'm often the one having to call out her/our culture's unhealthy attitudes and thought processes (of which there are a lot), explain misunderstandings and alternate perspectives, untangle cultural identity issues she has not with herself but with others, etc.

When my highschool ex-friends organized a 16 party for me in class. They gave me a giant card that got torn apart (made of craft paper) and a cupcake with a candle on it. It was really touching. :[

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