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⌈ Secret Post #2682 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

I feel you, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe that means you and your friend just have exceptionally good taste?

[(Anonymous)]

maybe you two just are on the same wave length?

[forgottenjester]

As easily as a majority of people? I dunno, it's a lot easier to see something when someone else points it out. That's how we work in general. *Shrug*

[(Anonymous)]

I suppose it's possible you're easily influenced, but liking the same thing as your friend does isn't that weird, OP. You're friends, after all. You probably have a lot in common, so it's not that surprising a book or movie might resonate for you in similar ways.

If you're really worried about it, then maybe try to expand your horizons even further. Read more books. Watch more movies. Think about what you like and why you like it. You'll probably feel more secure in your opinions if you do more to develop interests that are separate from your friend's.

[elaminator]

+1. (Though there is absolutely nothing wrong with you having similar tastes and thoughts. It isn't exactly abnormal or anything, and as long as you enjoy yourself it shouldn't matter.)

[likeadeuce]

I agree with this -- I think it's a very understandable anxiety, but I can't think of many better reasons to explore and enjoy something than to share it with your friend. As long as they don't insult your taste or influence you to dislike or stay away from things you enjoy, I think it's fine!

[(Anonymous)]

This is good advice for feeling more confident in what you like and don't like. And if it turns out you like something more because your friend had an interesting take on it -- that's not bad; that's just one of the benefits of having friends with good taste and thoughtful opinions.

[diet_poison]

You could also try reading/watching/playing something she likes before reading her review/reaction to it.

[(Anonymous)]

Me, too, anon. I think that's just how people are sometimes. I try not to worry about it too much.

[(Anonymous)]

I find it amusing that you're asking us to tell you how easily led you are. :p

I have nothing interesting to contribute

[feotakahari]

So I'll just dump this:

[skippydelicious]

Your friend said you should give me twenty dollars.

[making_excuses]

Why is that wrong or bad? I watched and probably enjoyed the Lord of the Rings films more because it is one of my friends favorite stories, I also read fantasy books she recommends me and I enjoy them even if they aren't what I usually read. It might be because she is my friend and speaks highly of it, but what does it matter, I still enjoy it

Just like my clothes, political leanings and how I look at society gets shaped by my friends and other people who I admire. I still think for myself and make up my mind, but I am sure I would not discuss feminism as much if it wasn't for my best friend and she wouldn't be as observant about LGBT things if it wasn't for me.

In both of those instances, or views didn't change, but the way we look and understand it got shaped by each other. Isn't that what friendship is for?

I am not saying you can't like or enjoy things your friends don't, I do that too, but it isn't anything wrong with being influenced by friends. I assume they are your friends because you like and admire them...

[lunabee34]

I almost invariably enjoy things more/see things I didn't before when I discuss with others. I don't think that's a bad thing, OP. :)

[(Anonymous)]

There's nothing wrong with this, OP. You're probably friends with her in the first place because you share a brain wavelength or three. But like other people have said, if it worries you, try to find your own media and take time to think about it on your own before you talk about it with her.

But as a counterpoint - I don't make many of my own media choices anymore. Not because I want to be led by anyone, but because my friends (who have much more free time than I do) all have good taste and recommend things that they know I'll like. And 80-90% of the time, their choices for me are spot-on. This isn't because I like being told what to do or anything (I'm pretty independent-minded in other aspects of my life) but because life's too short to read or watch or hear *everything* and my free time's too valuable to waste on crap.

[(Anonymous)]

You guys like the same things. It's okay,

[(Anonymous)]

Books are more fun when they're shared!

[elialshadowpine]

This seems pretty simple to me. I mean, if a friend recommends a book to me and squees about loving XZY things in it, even if I might not pick up on those elements normally, I'm going to notice them when I read the book because they've been pointed out. Also, if a friend of mine and I have similarities in things that affect us, it would then make sense that I'd have a similar reaction, especially with those things already pointed out.

I think a suggestion that's been made is good -- find books on your own, not recommended, and see how you react to them. More reading is never a bad thing, anyway. ;)

[(Anonymous)]

Or maybe it just means you click so well together because you really do have similar tastes in shows and books?