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"Healthy weight" really means nothing to you? Why such a black-and-white view of the world, OP?

I'm at a 'healthy weight' right now and jesus christ do I look obese :/.

this was OP

And feeling that healthy weight is "obese" is often a skew from the eating disorder.

I hope you're in some sort of counseling, OP.

AYRT

...that doesn't make any sense...

I mean, I never weigh myself or anything, but the odd time I do get weighed, I'm usually around the same weight, which is healthy for my size/BMI/family history/etc., so my GP never says anything. I honestly don't notice my weight, other than if my clothes are a bit more snug than usual (and half the time I swear it's my psychopathic self-aware clothes dryer that's done that), or maybe a bit looser, if I've recently been ill.

So, if you're at a healthy weight, are you wearing the wrong clothes? If you'd dropped weight from an eating disorder, your clothes would be too small for you, correct? So maybe that's contributing to your feelings of not being at a healthy weight subjectively?

I'm just fat - loose clothing are baggy and make me look even fatter and skin-tight show all that extra fat. My weight used to fluctuate in last years, so I have sizes from XS to M (European, no idea how this translates to US with vanity sizing and all that) and truth is nothing looks good when you are at my build. I am short too and I don't carry my weight good *at all*.

Sooo...don't wear baggy OR skin-tight? And you just said you were at a healthy weight, so where is "all that extra fat"? And if you're at a healthy weight, you're not "just fat" (though I suspect you know this).

Maybe best to start fresh? Throw out everything either XS or M, keep the S stuff, and maybe look into having it tailored/altered, if you don't want to buy all new?

Please don't make me go into details - I have fat legs and a belly that pops out and a ridiculous ass and just.. ugh.

I'm too poor to be throwing clothes away - especially when I don't know what weight I will be 2 months from now.

Not OP, but a severe skew in the perception of body image happens sometimes for anorexics: when they look at themselves they see, not what other people see (which objectively is often someone of average or below average weight), but someone who is "grotesquely fat."

OP, I'm going to be the blunt jerk here and say: People die from this disease. Not from being fat, but from anorexia. Because as fat as you *think* you are, you're depriving your body of what it needs to function and live.

You'd rather die than be a fat fangirl. So you will. Die, that is.

Let's put it a different way: Are you actually, really, sincerely prepared to die of heart or other organ failure to be thin?

If you do not get help, you will die. Maybe not tomorrow or in a month, but it will happen.

Let's just say death doesn't really faze me right now, at times even looks preferable. I am not starving just because I don't want to be a fat fangirl - it's just one of the fears I have, albeit - as ridiculous it may sound - a prominent one.

Then you really do need help. I hope you're ready for it before your body gives out, and I hope you can find the right kind of help.

You talk so textbook anorexia. Too textbook. You should probably actually have it instead of learning about the patterns of a real victim online before you post shit like this. You're disingenuous and mocking something people really have. Wow. Go you.

lol

i don't know, i'm not a textbook and they're talking a lot like the way i talked when i was suffering from my eating disorder.

Yes, OP. That's the illness talking, but I'm sure you already know this deep inside the logical part of your brain.

There are many ways of working on this. Eat for nutrition, not for calories, because your body is a machine you need to cherish with the proper fuel. Look after your body with massages, body creams and clothes that fit your current weight, whatever it is right now.

Avoid women's magazines and advertising images that seep that unhealthy body image into your head (models are freakish outliers, by their nature, and not a body type something most people should aspire to). Find ways of measuring your self-worth in ways that have nothing to do with how you look, like voluntary work.

Hopefully you're working on this already. I wish you the best.

But you aren't. The clue is in the word 'look' and is your distorted thinking. Other people see a healthy weight person. They are right. Keep up the therapy on your thinking.

because she has anorexia do some research

- a fat fangirl who isn't offended by this secret

This right here. I look a lot like that girl and I'm not fussed by this secret. Someone's disordered thinking does not reflect on me. It reflects on them.

OP I feel for you and I hope you get help.

because they are suffering from an eating disorder and it is at terrible, corrupting illness

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