[ SECRET POST #2687 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2687 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

02. http://i.imgur.com/cWK2kh0.png

[iceyred]

You shouldn't feel guilty for liking something and trying to make your life resemble that thing. At worst you tried to be something you're not (I dunno, are you femme?) and you can just chock that up to a learning experience.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't ever feel guilty for liking what you like. Anyone whining about how it's "heteronormative" has completely missed the point.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, it's kind of annoying that that idea even of a relationship being heteronormative exists (not all hetero couples want those rules), much less that people think gay couples should consciously avoid them even if it goes against the person's personality or preferences.

[kallanda_lee]

I don't think there's anything wrong with having sexual preferences for your erotica/romance fiction.

OH BULLSHT

[chardmonster]

Did it make you feel sexy?

Did she like it?

THEN FUCKING RELAX

The personal ain't that political, goddamn.

Re: OH BULLSHT

[(Anonymous)]

STOP YELLING.

Seriously, it's not necessary.

NO

[chardmonster]

WE'RE HERE

WE'RE CAPSLOCK

GET USED TO IT

I HAVE QUEERED THIS KEYBOARD DAMMIT

Re: OH BULLSHT

[(Anonymous)]

PREACH

Re: OH BULLSHT

[(Anonymous)]

This. Or, you know, if OP had tried to appear more femme solely for the purpose of making their relationship more heternormative and therefore legitimate, that would be the personal being political, and in this hypothetical case be a bit fucked up. But just thinking a relationship dynamic is sexy? You're good OP. If straight girls don't have to feel guilty about finding guys bigger than them sexy just because they do, you have no reason to feel guilty about this.

Re: OH BULLSHT

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously stop.

Re: OH BULLSHT

[chardmonster]

FUCK YOU

[(Anonymous)]

Nah, that's more of a personal preference than being heteronormative.

[cloud_riven]

Once dated a girl, a newby weirdo imo, who told me that she would never date a butch because they reminded her of being with a man (ie: why date girls if there's no... difference?). But that's fair enough since you're not obligated to like everyone and not have turn offs.

It was the idea she kept pushing about how butches and femmes together was sucking up to society's need for gender roles, and any penetrative sex, including fingering and oral, being inherently patriarchal that killed off any interest.

Point is, stop sweating it. Does femmeing it up work for you? No? That's okay too.

[(Anonymous)]

haha, oh no, your "fingering is patriarchal" gf could have been me back in college. I. . . got better.

[kamino_neko]

any penetrative sex, including fingering and oral, being inherently patriarchal

So...all tribadism all the time?

[cloud_riven]

Well, not exactly since there's more focus on putting your hands and mouth on everywhere but. Though finding new ways to have someone rub n' ride isn't hard.

Don't be so hard on yourself, OP

[(Anonymous)]

There's plenty of people who like certain relationship dynamics and some of them try to emulate them in real life (with varying results)

I adore pairings where the woman is more dominant while the man is more passive, but I've realized I can't pull it off very well in real life.

As long as you're having fun and not hurting anyone it's A-OK :)

[(Anonymous)]

Do what you want OP. With no regrets.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't feel bad OP.
I'm gay and like the whole femme/butch thing too.
I've gotten a lot of shit from it and I've even been accused of "fetishizing" gays.
But it was mostly from straight SJWs, so at the end of the day it really doesn't affect me and I don't care.

[making_excuses]

WAIT? How can you fetisise your own damn sexuality? I am so confused right about now...

[(Anonymous)]

Oh please - if you fetishizing your own sexual preferences then I, as a straight female, fetishize tall, broad shouldered, alpha males who walk down a hall like they OWN the building.

Not, uh, not like I'm thinking of anyone specific. Or anything. *cough*

[making_excuses]

Do what you want to do, dress how you want to dress! It is no worse than the fact that I shoot a bow because I love characters who shoots bows, or that I repeat "I am a Rockstar Scientists" in my mind over and over when I am doing some kind of schoolwork that I am uncomfortable with to emulate Newt from Pacific Rim.

Or on a more serious note, that most of the time I am attracted to feminine women and masculine men, it is your damn sexuality and your life, you aren't hurting anyone with it. It is just a preference and you can't do much with it, you enjoy the contrast* between the feminine and more butch women, I prefer what I have in my relationship now, where we are both quite feminine and that is what works for me, doesn't mean it has to be so for you.

Also: There is nothing wrong with wanting to be feminine, it is nothing wrong with using makeup or anything else that are classified under the "feminine" label, as long as you are doing it out of your own free will it is 110% okay!

*or any other reason, I dunno I'm not a mind reader

[(Anonymous)]

Your relationships are not heteronormative because you're both girls. Doesn't really matter how butch she is and how femme you are, it's still gay.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't feel guilty, though. It's not your responsibility to smash heteronormativity all the time. Live your life and enjoy what you enjoy; unless you're trying to impose some kind of butch-femme Defense of Marriage Act on other people's relationships, it sounds like you are not doing anything wrong.