[ SECRET POST #2693 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2693 ⌋

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Comments

[solticisekf]

It's not exclusive to fandom, imho. Mentioning any kind of illness will make people wary, especialy psychological issues, coz not everyone knows enough about it. Idk what's the point of talking about this in fandom anyway.

[diet_poison]

Apparently it comes up a lot in fandom, because when you're online it's easy to make that a bigger part of who you are than it really is - in a sense, to hide behind it and use it as an excuse. So if you're shitty to someone, which happens a lot in fandom too...it can come up quite a bit.

[sarillia]

Or it can be easier to talk about with some measure of anonymity. And I don't know about other people but my issues became a smaller part of me as I became more comfortable talking about them.

[diet_poison]

I feel that's kind of a side effect of fandom.

I wasn't trying to insinuate that everyone does that, to be clear. Just that that's why it's apparently a Big Deal.

[sarillia]

I understand. This whole conversation has just put me in a bad mood. I'm a little more kneejerky than usual at the moment.

[diet_poison]

eh, you didn't seem that kneejerkey to me. I totally get and agree with where you're coming from. I think it happens on both sides, really. And there's no excuse to mock or make fun of mental illnesses just because some people abuse those statuses.

[solticisekf]

I didn't know about this as I haven't seen it personally! People who act shitty in my fandoms (or in blogs about RL issues) just do so. Then there're some arguments, unfollowing and that's it... People don't see the errors of their ways so they don't even try to explain, instead they merrily continue on there (separate) ways.
So you've seen drama that I missed. Hm, maybe it's because I'm not on Tumblr all that much.

[diet_poison]

Well this isn't really firsthand, just what everyone talks about.

I'm not on tumblr much either. I think it's a poor platform for fandom, which is why I don't use it, but it doesn't hurt that I avoid much of the drama that way. (I mean it's fun to read the drama when it has nothing to do with you, but I don't like being in drama in most cases.)

[solticisekf]

Yeah, sometimes I read some fandom drama, it's a guilty pleasure.
ia on Tumblr.

[(Anonymous)]

I learned that I was bipolar some years ago. While I sometimes fail at it, I do my best to at least try not make it a get out of jail free card excuse for anything and everything. I sometimes have to remind myself of my "vow." It's not because of anything in fandom, it's because it's the condition my brother (legitimately) had that he used *constantly* as an excuse to be an asshole. I have this whole "I do not want to be like him!" thing going on. In fact, getting the diagnosis just shattered me because I did not want to have "the asshole-disease" that I thought it was because of my relation's behavior/excuses.

That said, I've been a terrible asshole in fandom in the past. I think the fact that I've mellowed out, found better places to be, become more chill is (in part due to simple growing up), but is also a testament to THE POWER OF MEDS.

I'm not shy about my condition online. I pretty much like to "warn" people, since I tend to like keeping my distance / am wary of friendship, anyway.

[diet_poison]

I can relate to this a bit, anon. When I realized I had depression in high school and (more specifically) when I realized I was hurting people because I was evading taking responsibility for it, I was scared I was going to turn out like my grandma, who never sought help for her mental issues (depression was probably one of them, since my mom and sister have both had it in the past too) and inflicted a lot of pain on her family, even though she loved them. (This was before I was in fandom, though.)

I totally agree about meds. They can be an excellent option; they really helped me.

[(Anonymous)]

Er, I can respond to this.

In my case, it comes out because people are demanding "OMG UPDATES".

They just can't fathom that maybe someone has a chronic condition that means they can't post/fandom socialize every day, until it's pointed out.

Am I using it as an excuse? Yes. Is it a valid one? Can't really post when I'm unconscious so.. I think so.

[solticisekf]

Unconscious? Omg, sounds like an ordeal.

It's better to say "for personal reasons" for me, however I'm not very open... Authors who say they have health problems usually recieve well wishes from readers who read author notes at all. Some just say they don't fill like writting... I hope they don't get hate mail.

[(Anonymous)]

It's just the heavy duty meds knocking me out. But better that than the nightmare that is my "episodes". :)

Ah! Unfortunately, I tend to hang around in fandoms where I'm the middle aged lady surrounded by teenagers. I've tried "personal reasons" before, but then I've gotten "well, what ARE they?". You know, obnoxious if well-meaning kid stuff.

And you'd be surprised about the hate mail if someone "doesn't feel like writing". Lazy is the kindest word I've seen other authors get for that.

I really need to find more mature fandoms. :P

[solticisekf]

Don't, what if I'm in one of those fandoms? Seriously, do! There'd be better discussion among other things.