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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-05-26 06:53 pm

[ SECRET POST #2701 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2701 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Almighty Johnsons]


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03.
[X-Men Evolution]


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04.
[The Dreaming Machine]


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05.
[Parasol Protectorate]


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06.
[Benedict Cumberbatch, Tom Hiddleston, Interview with the Vampire]


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07.
[Marvel Disc Wars: The Avengers]


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08.
[Orphan Black]


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09.
[Team Fortress 2]


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10.
[Severus Snape, Gerard Way]


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11.
[Neil Patrick Harris/Ramin Karimloo (Les Misérables/Hedwig and the Angry Inch)]


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12.
[Gakuen babysitters]


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13.
[The Walking Dead Game]


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14.
[Billie Piper, Penny Dreadful]


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15.
[Sherlock]












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(Anonymous) 2014-05-27 02:51 am (UTC)(link)
Anon, when I was at the age of 22:

-I had just broken up with the only real boyfriend I ever had.
-I dropped out of four-year college because I was frustrated at how long it was taking for me to get an education (after I had taken 3½ years just to get an AA degree that I couldn't even apply to any real career)
-I hadn't even had a first job at that point
-I had a million hopes and dreams and goals but unfortunately I had way too many stars in my eyes to focus on a real plan. This coupled with lack of support and even some aggressive opposition from people who claimed to love me killed all of that pretty fast
-I felt I was too dumb and scared to even know how to function in society, as an actual adult. I didn't live on my own and couldn't begin to imagine how I would accomplish that. The concept of roommates scared the shit out of me, as did the concept of paying bills and having nothing to eat at the end of the mouth. Of course without a job, it becomes difficult to live on one's own, but where there's a will, there's a way. I unfortunately just didn't have that will.

Fast forward to twelve years later.
-I went back to school for a degree I could apply toward a good job
-I got a job that, after having stuck with it a few years, allowed me to make enough to get my own apartment. At the moment, I don't have to worry about getting a roommate. I hope that much won't change. I am considering pets though. Just not now.
-I'm a performer. It's something I got interested in later on and just wanted to get into, but regularly performing was never a consideration. It's just something that happened, but it's been a lot of fun.
-I'm still working on making friends. I used to be scared as shit to say anything about my nerdy interests, because I thought they were "childish" things I should have grown out of. Well, I haven't grown out of them, and at some point, I decided I didn't give a shit. I can't say I'm super open about my interests, but it's a lot better than it was years ago.
-I started allowing myself to take sick days. I never did that in the past unless I was flu sick. But sometimes people need a mental health day. Or a menstrual health day. Having a job is important, but so is allowing the worker to do what they need to function.

Well, anyway, that's just a snapshot of me now, I guess. I'm still into video games and anime and silly things. Like others said, everyone in life has to go at their own pace, and not let others guilt them about not meeting some societal standard. I recently got smug-married by some old Korean lady at the Asian market because I still don't have a husband at my age. She called me hardheaded. I just smiled and laughed as I walked out with my purchase. I want to keep doing awesome stuff throughout my years. I want to be a performer at 50, or a 99-year-old anime nerd. I don't want lack of youth to stop me.

It sucks that our society is obsessed with youth, like there are only so many "productive" years when one is young. That's such bullshit. If you're stagnant or feel you aren't progressing or improving then it just means you need to try something else.

Life doesn't run out because you turn 22.

I don't know if any of this helps. I'm just sharing my experience. I guess I just want to say you can still accomplish things, but you have to cut some of the noise out of your head, whatever is making you doubt your capabilities. I don't know how things will turn out for you. But if you want to get somewhere, you have to start somewhere. Slow progress is still progress. At least you're trying. I've known people older than you who have come to a full stop because they can't get over their entitled attitudes.

This is super tl;dr so I'll just end it here.

(tl;dr version? Life goes on and can get better, believe in yourself and do something.)