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Well for me reading over this the big missing variable is your money situation. It sounds like you have enough to buy a starter home if buying a home is a viable option, but if that's the case one would think that you'd be able to afford rent on anything short of some sort of high-rise apartment and/or something that was smack dab in the middle of the city.

As for "solutions": Can you easily get a better paying job doing something similar/within the same field of work? Can you "do without" certain luxuries to make the new rent prices; can you ask why the prices are going up to see if this is the last for-seeable price hike? Is there really no decent price renting apartment place where you live that is still fairly comfortably within driving distance of your current job? That's all I got at the moment and from the information you've provided.

Honestly the whole "starter home" concept is something I don't even understand. I guess if a young married couple buys a house and then wants to sell it and buy a bigger one when they have kids, that makes sense. But given my situation I can't imagine a reason I'd ever want to sell my house if I bought one. At this point I feel settled in my career and I want to feel settled in a home. I'm just not the type of person who wants to have a bunch of different careers and live all over the world. I love my city and if I like a house enough to buy it I want to stay there. I mean, barring some crazy unforeseen circumstances, if I bought a house I'd want to live there forever.

The financial aspect is kind of hard to explain. I most likely have enough to buy a house if I want to get something in the suburbs, but not if I want something in the city (I'm *technically* outside the city limits now but I'm so close I might as well be in it, and the prices reflect that). In theory the apartments *should* be a lot cheaper outside the area I'm in now, but for example three of the different ones I looked at the other day were all around $200 more than I'm paying now, not in a great area and not nearly as nice as where I'm at now. Which makes ZERO sense, but apparently that's the way it is. (The place I'm at now is considered "luxury apartments" but pretty much everyone on the apartment rating sites agreed that even though they're really nice they're still way overpriced.)

I'm actually at the extreme high end for my field salary-wise so finding another job in the same field making more is basically impossible. I suppose I could try to get into another field but I'm not sure I want to go back to school and honestly I can't think of anything else that interests me.

I guess being completely objective I probably need to just give up certain things. At this point I'm kind of kicking myself and wishing I hadn't told the management of the place I'm living currently that I'm leaving (it was made very clear on the paperwork that I had to fill out that this decision is final and I can't change my mind). But they've got new management and everyone I've met has been horribly rude and seemed to have no clue what they were doing so it probably is for the best that I'm leaving, I just don't know what to do at this point.

The reason for the increase is apparently this whole new renting system that they've recently switched over to. It's kind of complicated, but the way it was explained to me is it's basically like airline tickets, it can go up or down depending on the day. I'd tried to find out earlier what the new prices were going to be but the new manager refused to give them to me until the last possible day so at that point I didn't really have any choice (if I'd been given any numbers earlier I could've kept checking back different days to see if they'd go down). Even though my neighbor renewed her lease on a different day and got a significantly cheaper price than I did, which I think is completely unfair. So considering all that, and the way the new management has been in general so far, I think it's probably a good thing to be leaving but at the same time I hate not knowing where I'm going to end up.

Of the four other places I've checked out, three were a lot higher and in a not so great area, and one would probably be fine (although it's in the suburbs which I'm not thrilled about) but a good amount higher than I'm paying now. It's on the same type of renting system though so the manager said there's a chance it'll go back down by the time I need it and she'd call me if it fell into my price range. But even if it ended up working out now, there's a good chance it'll go way up next year and I'll be in the same position I am now. I don't want to have to move every year or two. So considering that, it probably makes the most sense to buy a house, but like I said before, I'm not sure I can get a decently priced house in the city (or as close to it as I am now) and I don't know that I want to live in the suburbs with all the driving, plus I'm not sure that all the maintenance issues are something I want to deal with.

I just feel I don't have any good options at this point and it's seriously frustrating. :(

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