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There were multiple people who were very uncomfortable with what you said in the original thread, myself included, and you really didn't seem to care. It strikes me as ingenuine that acting now like our feelings matter now.

The thing is, you're all anonymous. I don't even have the back of an icon's head to tell you apart. As far as I know, you're the anon who comes up with eloquent comments talking about what you want to happen to me, and her/his responses are just so frigging funny that I don't want them to stop.

So you don't...actually....care.

Well, no. You're not human to me, you're a grey box and the word "anonymous" in parenthesis. And you write hilarious comments. diet_poison has a name attached to her/his comments.

If you take public transportation on a regular basis, you'll kind of see the same people. You might not know their names, but you recognize their faces (unless you can't recognizes faces, then replace that with...IDK, smells or something). Then you get on a bus, squished by faceless strangers. Now imagine that this is your stop, one of the faceless strangers are in your way, and one of the people who wait at the stop with you is also in your way. I have to push them out of my way, but I'm only going to apologize to the person who waits at the stop, if I apologize at all.

The thing is, I and every other anon here is human.

The thing is, you and every other anon are an indistinguishable grey blob that occasionally spits out words.

No. Every anon on here is human. Grey blobs cannot talk or type. Humans can.

I'd suggest you start treating everyone who responds here like a human. If you honestly don't care about anons just because they're "strangers", and feel no remorse about doing things to hurt them for your entertainment or out of your carelessness, then yes, I do think you have some issues.

See, that's part of what makes you upsetting and a little scary. The only thing separating the person you might apologize to from the person you won't is familiarity. The stranger is still a person. They're still human. You not personally knowing them doesn't make them something else or something less.

Your example doesn't work for people who aren't like you.

Well, yeah. Familiar people I have to spend time with. I have to be civil to them so they'll be civil to me because we'll interact again as ourselves. Strangers could be anybody, what do I care? Do you feel sad when you read obituaries?

DA

Yeah, I actually do feel sad when I read obituaries. That's a person whose life has ended. Who the fuck reads obituaries for fun?

(reply from suspended user)

Yes, we don't and can't care 100% about all people all the time, and we'll be more upset when our acquaintances and loved ones are hurt than when strangers are hurt. That doesn't mean that we don't consider strangers to be human, though, and it doesn't mean that we won't care about them enough to extend courtesy.

Not considering strangers to be human doesn't necessarily make you a sociopath (and far as I know, sociopathy isn't even an actual psychological diagnosis?), but I think it does go a bit beyond rudeness. It's kind of creepy.

Yeah, I knew that antisocial personality disorder was real. What I more meant by "sociopath isn't a real diagnosis" is that it's not the correct term in psychology. It also seems like it has a lot of cultural baggage, which is probably part of why it gets used in such incorrect/inappropriate ways.

Or you could say "excuse me, I have to get off here", coupled with pushing if necessary. Because I'd be pissed if someone on the bus just pushed me without any preamble.

Then you're obviously not interested in my wellbeing, so don't pretend you care about it.

...I never said I cared about your well-being?

Why would I? Who are you?

They could be anyone, couldn't they? They could be someone you know, one of those "familiar strangers." Lots of named users post anon from time to time.

Either spam their inbox with nonsense or stop responding to them. They're obviously doing this to get a rile out of people and you're giving them exactly what they want.

Oh dahlin', you so sweet.

Well, stuff happens. People fall through the cracks. It's not like I care about them enough to be anything more than polite.

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Is that the international symbol for elephantitis?

Sure!

Re: They have pills for that

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