[ SECRET POST #2729 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2729 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[killer is dead]


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[Lackadaisy]


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[Joe Trohman, Fall Out Boy]


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[Yowamushi Pedal]


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06.
[How To Train Your Dragon 2]


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[A Game of Thrones]


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[Fruit's Basket]


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[Community]


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[Rythian, a.k.a Joakim Hellstrand]


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[The Devil Wears Prada]


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[Night Court]










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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Several recent reunions with old acquaintances whose first words are generally "Have you lost weight?" got me wondering if people just remember me as fatter than I am.

I'm tired of being fat. I wish I could change it.

[kallanda_lee]

The good news is....you can. The bad news is...it's hard, it takes long, and you need to be in the right mental space to do it.

But, if you do, I'd say: do it for you, for your health, for feeling better, but not because of wht you think old acquaintances think of you.

+1 to all of this

[elaminator]

It's definitely possible, it's just hard work and takes time. You have to be dedicated. If you can get yourself into the right head-space and change some of your habits, you can make it happen.

But like kallanda says, it's best to do it for you. If you want to lose weight for other people...well, I'm not even sure how well that would work. I think I would've given up after two months.

[(Anonymous)]

Haha, I know what you mean! I haven't lost weight, even though I'm trying, so each time people greet me with "have you lost weight", it's really awkward to tell them "Uh, no, not really.". I can never tell whether they just think they're being polite or if they remember me fatter than I am...

[kaijinscendre]

As kallanda_lee said, you can! Getting started is the hardest part. I started by taking walks around my town for 20 minutes a day. Eventually cut out sugary drinks, then started eating smaller portions, then joined a gym. This is after 4 years of false starts. So it is possible, just gotta start getting into different habits.

[iceyred]

You can change it. Exercise more and eat healthy foods.

[fingalsanteater]

I just want to comment and say I'm sorry everyone in this thread decided to give you weight loss advice. People get a little self-righteous and preachy about other people losing weight when they've been able to. I've been where you are, and I've been self-righteous about it too. Someone just telling you "oh, yeah, you can totally lose weight" irritates me. It's a fucking struggle, it's not easy at all, not everyone can do it, not everyone can do it healthily, and not everyone can maintain their weight loss even if they do manage it.

I think finding confidence in your life and body is more important than fatness or thinness. You don't have to learn to love being fat, but you can learn to love your body for what it is, and, then, if losing weight is an endeavor you wish to embark on, you are are in a better mental place to do so.

(I hate that "you look thin" or "have you lost weight" are considered compliments. LITERALLY, AS I WAS TYPING THIS COMMENT, SOMEONE STOPPED ME TO TELL ME I'D LOST WEIGHT. I HAVEN'T FFFFFFFFUCK.)

[elaminator]

Now I feel really guilty and want to delete my comment but won't because well...I left it, so others should be allowed to see it.

If OP doesn't want to lose weight or likes their body I don't think they should worry about losing weight. Other people's opinions aren't as important as your own and your own happiness. Guess I figured OP wanted to lose weight and that they were convinced they couldn't. (Granted, I know some people have extra difficulty losing weight because of health reasons, but those are rarer so I didn't think to mention it.)

Er...anyway, sorry OP. (Didn't mean to be a dick!)

[fingalsanteater]

Don't feel guilty; it's natural to want to give advice on a subject you have experience with whether someone is asking or not. OP didn't specifically ask for advice, but the implication that they might desire it is there.

This is very personal subject for me, so I get a bit self-righteous in a different way. I got so fucking sick of giving weight loss advice because as soon as you start looking less fat people start coming out of the woodwork asking how you did it. I did it the unhealthy way and it's taken a while to feel better about myself now that I'm eating more normally again. My mom did it the unhealthy way. My fiancé did it the unhealthy way. My friend did it the unhealthy way. I know so many people who struggle with their weight, and I know how difficult it is to be fat and how difficult it is to lose weight. I will always advocate body confidence before I advocate losing weight just to be less fat. (Of, course, if you need to loss weight for health reasons, I advocate talking to a health professional.) I wish I would have been in a better mental place when I decided to lose weight.

[elaminator]

I get what you're saying. If you want to lose weight you should try to do it in as healthy a way as possible. I don't think anyone can argue with that; it's good advice.

You're right though, OP didn't ask for weight loss advice. Maybe they don't even want to lose weight so much as for people to stop thinking they need to. I've been there as well. No matter what they meant it sucks to feel fat.

In the end, people should do whatever they feel is best for themselves and what's going to make them happiest. Most people could benefit from a little (or a lot of) body confidence and being kind to yourself is probably the most helpful thing you can do.

[(Anonymous)]

"I'm tired of being fat. I wish I could change it."

Exact quote from the anon's comment. It's not like the advice is coming out of left field here, and NOBODY in the comments above you suggested that losing weight was easy. Most people said the exact opposite. Nobody's trying to harsh the anon's fat positivity because anon doesn't have any. Anon specifically stated they wished to change.

I'm fat. I've been the object of LOTS of unsolicited advice about weight loss, mostly from family, so I get your rage, really I do. But it seems a little misdirected here.

[(Anonymous)]

I could have said that exact sentence you quoted, yet in no way would I want weight loss advice. For me, it's money. When my grandmother died and left me $5000, I joined a gym and was able to buy healthy foods like chicken breasts and fresh fruits and vegetables. All things I love. But then the money ran out. And I'm back to working three jobs with no time to go to the gym, even if I had the money to aford the membership. And food is back to hot dogs, cheap hamburgers, pasta with butter, etc. Filling cheap things which are so bad for me. And guess what? Not only did I not lose any more weight, I gained it all back. So just because someone makes a statement like the OP did, doesn't mean they need/want weight loss advice. Most of us have heard the "eat less/healthy and exercise more" mantra a million times already. Hearing it one morw time isn't going to be some magic thing that makes a light bulb go off, causing us to lose weight.