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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-06-27 06:56 pm

[ SECRET POST #2733 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2733 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Lee Pace, JJ Feild, Tom Hiddleston]


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03.
[Dane DeHaan]


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04.
[Noragami]


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05.
[Faking It]


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07.
[Sebastian Stan]


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08.
[Attack on Titan]


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12.
[Captain America: The Winter Soldier]


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13. http://i.imgur.com/pVuisgv.png
[game of thrones, tyrion and shae, i'm not sure but maybe sex/murder?]


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14. http://i.imgur.com/n8qvljq.jpg
[link for gore? animated, passion of the christ type stuff]














15. [SPOILERS for Orange is the New Black]



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15-B. [SPOILERS for Alice: Madness Returns]
[WARNING for rape and child abuse]



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16. [WARNING for abuse]

[Lorna Morello from Orange is the New Black]


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18. [WARNING for child abuse]




















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[personal profile] fscom 2014-06-27 10:58 pm (UTC)(link)
16. [WARNING for abuse]
http://i.imgur.com/6oo7ngp.jpg
[Lorna Morello from Orange is the New Black]

[personal profile] peablossom 2014-06-27 11:08 pm (UTC)(link)
The fact that you think about all this probably makes you more aware than poor Morello.

(Anonymous) 2014-06-28 12:13 am (UTC)(link)
Have not seen the show in question, but OP, you sound a lot like my mother. But the problem with my mother is that she never gave a damn about other people, including her own children, and acted only to fulfil her own desires. Don't be inconsiderate and selfish, and you'll be fine.

(Anonymous) 2014-06-28 12:41 am (UTC)(link)
You sound normal. Everyone lies. People lie about things they don't want to talk about, they lie to make themselves sound more appealing, they lie for sympathy.

Morello is straight up delusional with no grip on reality. You don't sound like that.

(Anonymous) 2014-06-28 12:42 am (UTC)(link)
but even in the show Morrello isnt ONLY sad or pathetic, she's got a lot of sides to her. (her scene with Suzanne/crazyeyes on valentines day made me wanna cry)
Everyone lies sometimes, and we all day dream and fantasize. Its good to want to keep yourself in check, and just being aware of it is helpful! Do you have any friends who's opinions you really trust? Someone who you know doesnt lie to you, you can always say to them, "hey let me know if I'm being irrational!" if you can afford it or are in a country that can provide it seeing a counseler about your feelings is also a perfectly reasonable thing to do, no shame in it at all!

Its a common abuse tactic to gaslight people, make them think they are insane, invalidate their feelings, it makes you start to feel like you don't know which was is up. Don't take everything your abusers said to heart op. *hugs*

(Anonymous) 2014-06-28 12:57 am (UTC)(link)
Basically this.
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[personal profile] cassandraoftroy 2014-06-28 03:00 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, it sounded a lot like OP's family might be doing some gaslighting. "You're just twisting things around to make yourself out to be a victim" is an effective way to normalize abuse.

(Anonymous) 2014-06-28 01:58 am (UTC)(link)
I had a long relationship (way too long, in hindsight) with a woman who found it very easy to justify herself, no matter what she was doing. To this day I don't know exactly how many things that she told me were lies, or just how much money she stole from me. She was very good at compartmentalizing her brain so that she could say--even believe, on some level--whatever she needed to be true at that moment.

I appreciate that you're consciously trying not to become a person like that, because believe me, it's pretty shitty.
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[personal profile] diet_poison 2014-06-28 02:10 am (UTC)(link)
Being self-aware is a great step to not being the person you don't want to be.

I've been in a similar situation, if not as extreme. You CAN choose to be different!

(Anonymous) 2014-06-28 07:56 am (UTC)(link)
This.
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[personal profile] arcadiaego 2014-06-28 10:02 pm (UTC)(link)
A common tactic of abusers is to tell their victim that they're pathalogical liars/self obsessed/delusional/otherwise seeing the situation wrong. That way they can keep you doubting yourself and dependent on them.