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Theoretical question, but anyone who is experiencing one or the other is welcome to chime in with their experience.

But if you could CHOOSE, which would you pick?

Personally, I'd rather see someone in my family deteriorate physically. Because even by the end they'll still recognize me and know I love them.

I've seen both happen, and definitely physically. Mental deterioration causes so many more problems for both the patient and the people caring for them.

Definitely physically. While having a family member not being able to take care of themselves due to physical limitations and their frustrations about lack of autonomy can be difficult, seeing someone you love and care about not being able to recognize people they previously held dearly is a special kind of awful and they still need constant monitoring and help.

Physically, please!

I work in a nursing home. It's the saddest thing in the world seeing someone who was once a high ranking business executive wandering around in a diaper, smearing poop on himself. Not saying that to be funny. It's sad. It's sad seeing a woman who used to be a physics teacher curl up and scream every time I have to check her vitals and give meds. She doesn't recognize anyone, not even herself.

I can't imagine the horror these people might feel if they were aware of their behavior.

Alzheimers can fuck itself.

I...can't really decide. I've seen both take equally horrifying routes.

The one that went mentally...he was just...gone to the point he was almost like a toddler except not as present.

The one that went physically is actually the reason I believe in mercy killing. They were in so much physical pain* that they literally forgot how to eat and drink and ended up living with that amount of pain for a couple of years.

So it would really depend on the exact route since they can be equally horrifying depending on the route it goes.

*Pain killers weren't an option for reasons I don't really want to get into

Depends on the family member (i.e. what they take pride in, their circumstances, etc.)

i.e. My mother can probably go through a lot of mental deterioration and ultimately still be relatively fine, but physical deterioration would be a much bigger burden on her. My father is a mixed-bag, but (by a very slim margin), I'd pick physical deterioration for him, if only because his field of work relies much, MUCH more on immediately mental acuity, rather than a general mental state and physical capability like my mother.

I'd prefer to deteriorate physically than mentally, with the possible exception of my sight (I hate having to listen to things - especially things being read, explanation, etc. - so I dread the idea of being completely blind).

I'm inclined to say physically, though mentally is the only one I've experienced (late grandmother with Alzheimer's).

I suppose technically it depends on severity, but mental deterioration is so hard on everyone involved. It's also kind of a horrifying way for me to think of living the last few years of my life. If I were so physically decrepit that I couldn't walk, or had aches, or had to stay in bed, or use a wheelchair, or depend on medicine, or whatever else...at least I could still think, reason, and tell my family I love them while knowing exactly who they are.

(Plus, mental deterioration often leads to physical deterioration anyway, especially with Alzheimer's, because it makes the brain unable to regulate the body)

Physically, although hopefully as a result of old age and that the period between major deterioration and death wouldn't be too long.

I'm inclined to say physically (mostly based on my eighty-year-old grandmother being physically disabled, but still mentally sharp as a whip and able to live independently), but there's always exceptions.

Having given end-of-life care to my grandparents, I can say that for the care-givers, physical deterioration was easier to deal with. He had a lot of pain, and issues, and needed a ton of help, but he was mentally all there, knew who we were and what was going on. This meant that he was co-oporative (well, aside from when, towards the end, he got so depressed about his life and the fact that his own wife frequently didn't know him that he would fight his care to try and make the end come faster; but I don't like to think about that).
Grandma, on the other hand, was (predominantly) physically fine, but was a mental disaster. From one hour to the next she was either completely there or thought she was 17 again. The problem was that this made her REALLY hard to take care of - she'd try to leave to "get to work" or "go home" and would sometimes simultaneously recognize her grandchildren AND be wary of the "strange man" in the house (my father, whom she'd known for 40 years).

So, yes, if I had had the chance to choose, I'd go for physical.
However, I can't deny the fact that, all things considered, my grandmother (despite being mostly crazy) seemed, overall, to be happier than he was. Then again, hey, that's just seemed from the outside. :/

Damn, that answer got way more depressing than I meant it to. Still, I guess it'd be expected from the question.

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