[ SECRET POST #2751 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2751 ⌋

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Comments

[nyxelestia]

Please gush about it, I really want to learn how to drive stick but don't really know anyone who can both teach me and actually has a stick-shift car to teach me with. :P

A little more on-topic: Weaver's comment is a little condescending, but not...that much, I guess? Or at least it doesn't come across that way, to me. I mean on one hand, parenthood isn't something everyone should do and shouldn't be pushed on anyone, and this whole "every woman needs to be a mother" mentality is unhealthy. On the other hand, most people do aspire for family or familial relationships.

Speaking as someone who is very career focused and not really interested in family, I don't find it particularly presumptuous to assume that most people in general look forward to a family of some kind, typically a long-term relationship and children. Extending that, if you were to give me someone who I didn't know much about, I wouldn't think much of assuming they are one of that majority until I have reason to believe otherwise.

Now, continuing to believe/insist someone really just wants to be a parent/family after they said they haven't is a different can of worms entirely. If you know someone doesn't want family or kids and continue to project that desire on them, anyway, that's different. But I don't know if lack of a desire for family is well known about Katherine Hepburn, so I'm not sure where to place Weaver's comments on that matter.

tl;dr - I wouldn't blame someone for assuming that I want kids one day, I'd only get upset if they insisted I must want kids after I said I don't/they are not a priority.

[sarillia]

I'm a little tired of assumptions of fitting into the majority (like how I'm straight until proven otherwise). Why do people have to assume anything? Can't they just recognize that they don't know until they ask or it comes up in conversation somehow?

[nyxelestia]

The thing about assumptions is that they do speed things up and smooth things over. I definitely get the frustration, being someone who runs counter to most stereotypes and assumptions. But I also know that I use them, and that more often than not I'm right, and the times I'm wrong are easily cleared up. That's why we have them in the first place.

We don't do well with blanks, so we use presumed information to fill them in. I don't find fault in anyone doing that, because I know that when it comes to day-to-day, on-the-spot situations, they are more helpful than not. The only thing I don't do well is people being immovable on those assumptions, refusing to "edit the blanks" so to speak, and THAT'S where the problems start.

[(Anonymous)]

"We don't do well with blanks, so we use presumed information to fill them in. I don't find fault in anyone doing that, because I know that when it comes to day-to-day, on-the-spot situations, they are more helpful than not."

look at you, being all sane and shit

[nyxelestia]

Uh, thanks? :)