[ SECRET POST #2751 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2751 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

As a woman who doesn't want kids, I don't think your equivalency holds up, at least in my experience. Whenever I've told someone I wasn't really interested in any other interest they had, be it rock climbing or horses or painting or whatever I have never been told that I'll change my mind, that I'm being selfish, or that there's something wrong with me. Those are things I've only heard when I said I don't want kids.

There's an underlying assumption that all women want to be mothers and although it's getting better for those of who don't want to be, it's still not a life choice that's as accepted as it should be. And when/if the day comes that I get the same reaction from telling someone I don't want kids as I do when I say I have no interest in learning to water ski, I will be very happy.

[(Anonymous)]

This. Having children is nothing like having a hobby and... yeah, I'm at a loss for words that anyone thinks this is a great comparison. The issue of women and having children carries with loads of baggage. My parents will never, ever pressure me into taking up knitting or collecting stamps. No one will ever come up to me at a birthday party and say, "Ohhh, 32 years old! Better start developing an interest in bonsai before your eggs dry up!" or "You know, once a woman turns 30, her ability to handcraft miniature models of Civil War battlefields decreases dramatically." or "You should hurry up and get married before taking up geocaching!"

Not the same. At all.

[(Anonymous)]

As a woman who does want kids, I agree with your position completely. It's ridiculous and delusional for someone to compare raising a child to a hobby. Parenting is a full time job. Unless you want your kid to end up being a entitled narcissist from getting spoiled too much out of laziness to discipline or have your child ending up having major self-esteem issues and depression from not getting emotional support or being a victim of abuse, you have to make sure you're 100% on board to effectively parent your kids. That means wanting to be a parent, loving and supporting your children, and making sure they grow up to be functional human beings who respect others.

This is not some hobby like learning how to knit, and anyone who treats their kids more as an interest than a human being that needs to be nurtured probably should not be a parent in the first place.

[(Anonymous)]

ok, so what about the people whose hobbies ARE their jobs. leaving aside OP's example about driving stick, let's say i'm a professional biker and I'M LIKE TOTALLY INTO BIKING; IT'S SO GREAT GUYS; IT'S LIKE MY LIFE. i run into someone who's like "no, i don't like biking, i've never liked biking, i see people biking and i'm like 'ugh i'm so glad i'm not biking'. i want to drive everywhere for the rest of my life".

then when i'm like "oh.... are you sure? but biking's so good for you and...the environment...it's great..."

then that person can be like "OMG QUIT JUDGING ME JUST LET ME BE BIKE FREE OK??"

is this better?