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sorry for the huge ramble
RE: deaths of loved ones.
It has to be done skillfully and in a way that is genuine and fresh. Though what I would advise- because this is what I do in scenerios where I have a major character's parents killed- is keep the killed characters characters in their own right. Not through anguished memories of a person who's making the tragedy all about "it's my fault and I need to avenge them"- but have the killed characters have goals and importance. Make them have their own story in how you write them and treat them.
(also I strongly advise AGAINST "[family member died] and it's all MY fault MEMEMEMEME MEEEEEEEE" Just that's the annoying part for me. When the surviving character makes himself the biggest victim.)
In one of my stories where the plot called for killing family members of the protagonist , I didn't make him feel guilty for it. I made him be trying to deal with it quietly so he won't worry his younger sibling (but still emotionally effected) and I have him feel jaded and betrayed by how things work. Having this feeling of "it wasn't fair they were good people". I also tried to show and acknowledge other characters, like the hero's aunt and one of the victims' sister, and her feelings and emotions about it. I acknowledge that she's feeling pain and grieving and have the protagonist notice this. Basically I tried to make up for the fact that I killed the characters by showing them and their lives proper respect.
So yeah. I acknowledge that "family/loved ones dying" can be overused, and that's why you got to do it well. It shouldn't be not allowed to use ever IMO, because deaths are a thing that happen and should be allowed to be written about. But when it's done it should be done with good reason, and with ...if it makes sense... respect to the characters killed. Remember that they were individual people with lives and goals and stuff and don't make the deaths cheap. Also don't make the deaths all about one character and his (or her) pain. Respect that a lot of surrounding people will be affected and touched by it.
Also having the WHOLE family die seems kind of excessive. But I see no reason why you can't write about a character losing a loved one because of the plot.