[ SECRET POST #2759 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2759 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What kind of (a)sexuality is this? (Possible TMI)

[(Anonymous)]

HURP welp er - pretty sure you aren't asexual based on the description - it is generally an attraction thing. You don't sound like you don't want sex, rather that you want GOOD sex with people you find hot / attractive.

Sexuality really isn't about how good you find sex or how much you enjoy it. That is actually something that varies wildly based on a) who it's with; b) what you're doing; c) lots of other factors that I'm not listing. Regardless of your sexuality or lack of, you may or may not enjoy actually having sex. What determines if you're sexual/asexual isn't what you get out of it but whether you want to in the first place.

Like, you can be super gay and be bored by a lot of gay sex. Just because attraction exists doesn't mean the sex will be good or that you'll like it; you've probably heard of guys saying things like even if they find pretty girls hotter they're less fun to fuck because or they find someone not hot at all but they're great in bed, etc..

Asexuality would be not even wanting sex at all really. It just sounds from your post that you don't like bad or unfulfilling sex, and, well, that's totally normal! That's lots of people.

http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/ I would actually recommend checking this out - it's very welcoming / open about stuff, and you can see there are tons of people there who are definitely sexual but who are working at finding out what KIND of sex works for them / how to make sex BETTER, given that it's something they're interested in.

But... yeah, TL;DR is you probably aren't asexual or given what you're saying it doesn't fit what asexuality is.

SA woops

[(Anonymous)]

Messed up a bit on third paragraph. 'you've probably heard of guys saying things like even if they find pretty girls hotter they're less fun to fuck because or they find someone not hot at all but they're great in bed, etc.'

Should be 'you've probably heard of guys saying things like even if they find pretty girls hotter they're less fun to fuck because they don't do much, or they find someone not hot at all but they're great in bed, etc..'

This is actually a thing anyway, there's a general perception that people who are less sexually attractive 'try harder' in bed and give better sex. Not something I condone or necessarily agree with, but it does sort of point to the fact that how good sex is isn't tied to how sexually attractive someone is and rather more linked to whether they're putting in effort or doing something you like in bed.

Re: What kind of (a)sexuality is this? (Possible TMI)

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Adding to this, if sex has left OP totally underwhelmed enough for her to not be interested in it at all any more and left OP totally underwhelmed enough to have lost the attraction to other people, then that could possibly count as some kind of asexuality.

But it doesn't sound like OP has completely lost interest in having sex. More that she's frustrated by bad sex and would like good sex instead. OP, if you'd still be interested in a relationship full of great sex with a sexually attractive partner, you're probably not asexual. Just going through a patch of bad sex.