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A lot of special needs kids respond to positive reinforcement in traumatic situations. It's all about framing.

Does she have any "safe" positions or self comfort techniques that have worked in the past? Perhaps a favorite object?

I would suggest supplying her with a favorite object (blanket, stuffed animal, video game, etc) and approaching the situation with as much positivity as you can muster. A lot of yaaaayyyy! Congratulations! Oh look at you, you're becoming a woman, etc.

Taking her out of the current environment is often a useful tool as well. If she tends to respond to public situations well, you could offer to take her out for ice cream to celebrate.

She doesn't really have any positions or self comfort techniques. And unfortunately most of her favorite stuff is back home (they are visiting from across the country).

She has her iPad so we have given her that. She has calmed down quite a bit for now. Hopefully she will realize that she isn't actually hurt (she doesn't want to sit down because she is afraid it will hurt [despite what we say]).

Is she generally suggestible? If you, say, gave her a pillow from your bed and said "this is my special pillow, I use it when I have bleeding too. It makes it so you can sit on it without it ever hurting," would she be amenable to a thing like that?

I am not sure about the extent of her autism, or how she regularly communicates/interacts with her caregivers or her environment, but techniques like that have worked with people I have dealt with in the past when they haven't been able to understand a literal concept or they are experiencing a psychosomatic response, hallucination, or are prone to conversion disorders.

We told her the pads were bandages because that is the closest thing we could think of when dealing with blood.

She is much calmer now. Hopefully this first period will be short and light.

Thank you for your advice!

Any time! Big props to her mom and you. I know firsthand how specific the needs of people with autism can be, and her having an experience like that in a (relatively) unfamiliar environment is really not the ideal.

Good luck.

PS. If you can get her to take some medication for pain, do it as a prophylactic. Don't wait for her to actually be in pain, just give her the pill to prevent it. All the ibuprofen in the world isn't going to harm her, and it will likely be better than trying to deal with her in the event that she does experience any cramping.

Oh yeah, we gave her some ibuprofen as soon as we got it. Better safe than sorry.

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