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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-08-02 03:03 pm

[ SECRET POST #2769 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2769 ⌋

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Re: got a new job recently

[personal profile] cassandraoftroy 2014-08-02 09:55 pm (UTC)(link)
When he says something assholish, just stare at him for a moment and then say in an even tone, "That was unkind and hurtful," or, "What an awful thing to say." Because it was. It's not about him, but about what he said. Pointing out that his statements hurt you and others, and are not acceptable, in a non-aggressive way, will put the awkwardness of the situation back where it belongs: on him. It's saying, no, I don't want to play along, and I think this is a terrible game in the first place.

Re: got a new job recently

(Anonymous) 2014-08-03 03:19 am (UTC)(link)
+1. It needs to be made clear to him that even if he thinks he's funny, you don't find it funny, in fact it's actually hurtful.