[ SECRET POST #2769 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2769 ⌋

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Comments

[atelierlune]

I have written that super-consensual fic. Specifically because I was horrified by fic where the man/dominant partner flies into a jealous rage, restrains and/or forces themselves on their partner in what is dubious consent at best, inclusive of a lot of "you are mine/you belong to me" talk, and it's hand-waved that this is an expression of deep, kinky and intense love - because he's so sorry but he did it because loves her soooo much and oooh he's so dark and broody before he takes it out on her but afterwards it's all better.

I don't like the persistent 1-2-3fingers-penis thing either (particularly if a couple is portrayed as having any kind of long-term relationship), but reading these 50 Shades-style fics made me feel like people were actively propagating dangerous lies. "This is a healthy and desirable relationship! And heroin is good for you!"

Yes, it's only fic. But I feel like BDSM is one of those frontiers that people don't know very much about... so they make shit up.

[(Anonymous)]

I totally agree: the problem is not BDSM by itself, it's writing BDSM fic in a way that tells us that is is intrinsically better than non-kinky sex (whatever that is). <-- don't answer that! :)

The problem is when inexperienced people read such stuff and get an unrealistic view of BDSM: it just increases the likelihood of later abuse. I suspect that if such ignorant nonsense was not spread so widely, there would be less domestic abuse.

A question I'd rather not know the answer to is: how many unhappy couples result from teenagers reading Twilight or Fifty Shades of Gray and applying such stupid ideas to real life? Most teenagers are too smart to confuse fiction with real life, but some are way too naive or so over-protected by their parents they assume dangerous stuff can't happen to them.