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⌈ Secret Post #2772 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Audrey Tatou, Coco Avant Chanel]


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[Orange is the New Black]


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[Recettear]


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[Mad Men]


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[Game of Thrones]


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[Archer]


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[Kate Beaton's Hark! A Vagrant]


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[Sleepy Hollow]


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[Divergent]













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Comments

Re: F!Sers you would go out on a date with

[elaminator]

Yessss, let's go bowling afterward. I love bowling and no one ever wants to go with me. :/

Did you ever catch up on SHIELD? I remember you were a little behind.

(Where you been? I haven't noticed you around lately.)

Re: F!Sers you would go out on a date with

[elialshadowpine]

I'm supposed to catch up on SHIELD with my partner once I move back in on Friday. My girlfriend Omi, boyfriend Scott, Omi's husband Louis, and Scott's two daughters moved in RIGHT as things went batshit with my ex-girlfriend, who was living in our house. Batshit to the point I did not feel safe being in the house around her, especially since she said to multiple people that she was going to "make" me listen and agree with her "no matter" what she "had to do". This was after I found out some really disturbing shit, like that she wanted to drag me out of the house mid-seizure and stick me in the car to take a friend back to Seattle, because she was in pain and she was going to "suffer" and because it was "my friend" then I deserved to "suffer too".

So, I have been staying with Omi and family for the past month, because my married partner understands that I just couldn't be in the house. Scott's girls have been staying at the house, since ex is not violent and has mostly been passive aggressive "why does everyone hate me?".She is, suffice it to say, a professional victim. *rolls eyes*

Morgan (married partner) and I have seen each other over the month, and now crazy ex is out, yay, so once some stuff is sorted out (mostly regarding the computer) I head back, probably the weekend. But all this ha meant that being out of the house, I've been busy more, and I haven't always had the time to keep up with F!S.

(I suppose the good news in this is that Omi, Scott, and I are engaged to be handfasted, likely next Sept. If is not clear, we are all poly so this effective is a marriage-level commitment regardless of legality. So. Yay. :)

Re: F!Sers you would go out on a date with

[elaminator]

Damn. Damn, that's a lot of craziness. I would've accepted “I've been busy,” and hope I didn't make you feel pressured to delve into your personal life, but wow... Your ex sounds like an extremely unstable person and you guys must be saints to allow her to stay despite that. At least she's gone now, but it sounds like you shouldn't keep in contact. The seizure incident is especially worrying... I hope she goes her own way and leaves you and your group alone after this.

But congrats on the upcoming ceremony! I'm sure you and your partners are excited. I hope it goes well for you! (If it's next year you have plenty of time to plan! If there's much planning required, even. I don't know the first thing about weddings or ceremonies, poly or otherwise tbh, lol. I think I've been to three weddings in my life, and one was my brothers.)

Re: F!Sers you would go out on a date with

[elialshadowpine]

Yeah, I... oy, I have written a number of incredibly long LJ/DW entries, first going over the issues that we knew about, and then the stuff that started to come out as she vented to my mom and mutual friends. (Yes, she dragged my mom into it, and did her best to alienate my mom and sister from myself and my partners. Thankfully, my mom never takes one person's word, and we had some long talks about what "actually" happened. On top of that, a long talk in which my mom expressed she really would hate to see things be unresolved and made some suggestions. We went through about five different scenarios in which I said "tried that", went over how it went, her response, and mom's general commentary was that from the reactions she had gotten from Grey in trying to talk some sense into her was that she could see that all too easily. By the end, Grey refused to have any contact with us and would only go through my mom as a go-between. Yergh.)

We are definitely not keeping in contact. As far as I am concerned, she is dead to me. That is pretty much what I told her when she tried to argue with me over the seizure incident. I'm sorry, but no. You don't even joke about doing that, much less argue with someone over actually doing it. I barely have any memory of that day except her yelling at me as I was going to lay down because I was having the seizure aura that she thought I was faking.

Some folks I would probably not go into as much detail but we've talked enough I trust you. :)

Regarding ceremonies, that's going to be the fun thing. We are looking at having a ceremony at one of the quiet inns up near Mt Rainier, possibly having dinner at one of the lodges on the mountain itself instead of paying a lot for a fancy reception (also gives people more food options), and having a couple nights at the lodge itself. Probably later on having a party at one of the houses for folks we don't have room for at the ceremony. Pizza, booze, and music, what can go wrong? >_>

We're not wanting to spend a lot, although I'm eyeing lovely, lovely gothic dresses (like this!, or this) and trying to figure out how realistic it is going to be to tuck the fiance into something like this. *whistles*

Ceremony, we'll probably be poking around for various ideas / coming up with something on our own. I've done one formal handfasting in my life but I don't think I want to use that same construction. Twill be interesting :)

Re: F!Sers you would go out on a date with

[elaminator]

Wow, that's... Really inappropriate and batshit, for her to try to turn your family and partners away from you. She clearly has a lot of unresolved issues and needs to keep her distance. I wonder if she was close to your mother while the two of you were dating, because if not... It's really bizarre for her to go to her as a sounding board or whatever. It's a good thing your mom isn't easily manipulated, though it is unfortunate that your ex put you in a situation where you needed to have that long talk with your mom, which I imagine wasn't fun. Ugh.

God, why would anyone fake a seizure? Faking unwell feelings is not something people do on a regular basis and it says something about her that her thoughts jumped to that. Jeez.

Aww, thanks! I'm here if you want to chat.

Ooo, a ceremony at a nice Inn in the mountains sounds lovely! If the food is good then I see no reason not to eat there, because it would certainly be easier than cooking yourself or hiring someone to cater it. Good thinking. And of course an after-party is always nice. Pizza and music sounds like my kind of party, lol.

And I can understand not wanting to spend much, so if what you need to pay for is mostly the clothing then to book the hotel you're doing good! I love that first dress; it looks very well made and is a gorgeous color. What a nice shape, too. Idk what your fiance's taste is like, but that's a fantastic waistcoat... Hell, I'd probably wear that, haha.

I hope you come up with something that you can all agree on! At least you're starting early, so you should have plenty of time to think it over.

Re: F!Sers you would go out on a date with

[elialshadowpine]

Yes, she was close to Mom while we were dating. She was closer to my Mom than her own, and also, my Mom is a retired psych nurse. Honestly, I suspect that she was probably trying to get some advice, but she's not willing to actual listen to advice that requires compromise or change on her part (something my mom realized and found frustrating).

I'd also found out she has been saying things to my mom over the last year and some that bothered me a lot. I knew about this one earlier on, right when we first got together, upon when my mom saw my wheelchair and realized how badly I was off. She commented on it and Grey made a comment to her about how I was helpless, I needed a caretaker, and that she loved me and that was her reason for being here. This struck me as sweet at the time but something about it bothered me, and it's the codependence, really. It's also that she put me into a role where I was "helpless", and anytime I tried to do anything my own, she argued and fought with me. It was not worth fighting over, but that is a really fucked up attitude to go into a relationship with someone who is disabled with, and it's fucked up to say to someone's mother. She was trying to get brownie points, I think.

Yeah, I ended up having to have a long talk where I basically had to defend myself because she had poisoned the well so much that my mom was coming into it thinking that we were being unreasonable. It didn't help my sister was really very close with her. I ended up having to have some very uncomfortable conversations, and while eventually, my mom came to the same conclusion we did, especially considering that Grey's behavior and complaints, combined with what we were saying we had done, were completely unreasonable and obviously ... well, it's been agreed that she has a major martyr complex. She HAS to be the victim, no matter what. It makes me wonder about a lot of things she told me about the past.

Yeah, that she thought I would fake a seizure just sickens me. Those are HELLISH. The bad ones, I come out aphasiac, with a bad headache/migraine, dizzy, weak, I have trouble telling where I am, I often can't verbalize them, it's just awful. But because it's not a grand mal seizure, and because I get auras and I can push them "back" by a few minutes. Not indefinitely but enough that I have enough time to get to safety. According to a friend of mine with partial complex seizures, this is not uncommon. Even though she saw that conversation, being part of the chronic illness community (which, given I had been part of the community since 07, they booted the fuck out of her when they found out what she was doing; even regardless of what she was doing to me, her behavior was very unsafe for other members too), she still didn't believe me. So, she thought I was faking. It's especially awful given she has severe health issues of her own.

Yes, I think we are looking at the ceremony at one inn, then afterwards dinner at a nearby restaurant, to be decided upon. The nearby one at Mt Rainier is definitely in the running but there is also the Mt Rainier Train that has reservations for the Dinner Train, which might be actually very cool to do. Looking at this, actually, I think this may be a winner because they have a wider range of food options and we have ... a lot of picky eaters. I just sent them an email for info on their packages to see what they have, eee.

We definitely want some honeymoon time but that will depend what we are able to save and honestly I don't see a dire need to have more than a three day weekend or so anyway, which is doable.

I actually got to show my fiance the waistcoat and he thumbs upped it! Yay! He's broad shouldered, sorta general geeky shape, more muscley in the arms because he does a lot more lifting and stuff, does have a bit of a beer belly, but I think that the waistcoat would actually help with that, especially if in black. My fiancee really likes the black skirt and shirt set with the corset, so ... I think we actually have our wedding clothing picked out!

Now the question we probably have next is how much of the wedding party we are also outfitting. Scott's daughter (and Omi's daughter/stepdaughter) Boo is 16yo and has demanded the role of flower girl. XD We probably also want to include family (like my married partner, Omi's married husband, Scott's adult daughter, potentially my mom) in the handfasting ceremony. Weirdly, I'd prefer to buy people involved pretty outfits than spend a lot of money on catering, flowers, expensive cake, etc... especially since these are clothing that I KNOW my family would wear again. My married partner continued to wear their wedding jacket that was bought specifically for the occasion until it was ruined by an ex housemate/ex boyfriend who, when a cat had an accident, instead of washing it, buried it in a large pile of ruined cat peed clothing until it was beyond repair.

Sorry for going on a fair bit, I'm excited but I'm also a bit manic at the moment having been awake a rather long time. We are definitely starting early for both affordability and to give us more time to plan. If needed we'll end up planning out further; it can always go to spring of the next year if needed. (It might need that; I have promised a wedding gift for a very dear friend by hopefully this spring, for her fiance to come out from Australia to Canada so they can get married and get the ball rolling on immigration, I have a convention in April, and I have Worldcon in Spokane around Labor Day in 2015... so, ack, this might not work out timing wise. Will have to discuss. Eep.)