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Does the "divide by two plus seven" rule work for you? Like, if you're thirty, would the lowest you would ever date be 22? Or do you think in terms of plus or minus a few years of your age? Does it make a difference if we're just talking about who you would hang out with? What's your age and range, and do you think it's socially acceptable?

I'm 25, and according to that rule, I should date a 19 year old.

I would never date someone under 21, or probably hang out with someone under 21. It just feels weird. I prefer to date people, and hang out with people, closer to my age. For friends, it's more open, I'd probably hang out with older people as friends, but mostly I just would not care to hang out with/date teenagers.

Dear god, no. I'm 37 and there's no way in hell I'd date a 25 year old. I'd hang out with one, sure.

I think maybe 33-35 at the youngest would be the range of possibility for me.

Dating: Too young to be my Dad and too old to be my son.

Hang out with: Any age at all.

I'm 32, and 23 (half plus 7) is right on the very edge of what I'd be comfortable with. Usually, I think in terms of plus-or-minus up to 5 years as being optimal.

I'm 29 but i feel a lot younger and people see me as being 22. (I look super young), and when I see someone my age I always think they look a lot older. I'd probably date anyone between 21-31, and I'd be friends with any age. Most of my friends are in their 20s (mostly in the lower 20s)

I never dated anyone more than 2,5 years older or younger. It wasn't even a conscious choice, but I guess I don't really like big age gaps instinctively. I get less fussy about it the older I get, though.

Hanging out: I'm far less particular about that. The majority of my friends are my age or up to 5 years younger, but really I hang out regularly with people ranging from late teens to late 40's.

My biggest age gap thing was where I went on holiday with one of my mom's friends - I 22 then and she was in her 60's. Neither of us had someone to go with- and it was fun actually.

Also I don't give a damn about socially acceptable. Relationship-wise, I do care about not dating someone who feels like a child maturity-wise - but hey, if I loved a 22-year old who was mature, and they loved me back, screw socially acceptable.

Edited 2014-08-12 23:56 (UTC)

I wouldn't want to date younger guys. (25 according to that rule, which sounds way too young.) I think 30 would be my lower limit. I don't mind dating older men, though. I've had crushes on men nearly twice my age.

Late 20s is fine. Anything below 25 is pushing it. Anything below 21 isn't going to happen for so many reasons.

Wait, how old are you?

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dethtoll - 2014-08-13 07:13 (UTC) - Expand

I'm 21 and at this point of time I wouldn't want to date anyone with a greater difference of two years in either direction.

Hanging out or being friends is different though, I'd hang out and be friends with any age as long as they were nice people.

I don't mind befriending anyone older than me to be honest. I'd befriend folk younger than me on the basis of common interests it it wasn't weird.

28-48. I don't date men younger than I am. It just leads to tragedy and sadness.

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Depends on the individual. The vast majority of kids that I meet (ie. under 25) I absolutely would not date. Ever. And I meet a lot of university students.

Sometimes I meet an exceptionally mature one though, and I think, "Hmm. Maybe."

(this is actually a problem for me considering I'm usually mistaken for 19-24, and I'm actually nowhere near that age)

I'm 23, and though by the "divide by two plus seven" rule means I could date a 19 year old, I would feel weird dating someone so young. Not necessarily because of the numbers, but because they'd be at a very different point in their life than me. At 19, most people around here are in college, when I've already graduated and have a full-time job. As for upper limits, eh... late twenties, probably? Again, a 23 year old is at a different place in life than 30. I know many people make it work, but it might feel strange to me.

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diet_poison - 2014-08-13 03:11 (UTC) - Expand

Everyone I hang out with is my parents age range to minus 15 years, for the most part. Dunno what it is about real life that I have trouble with people my own age. Would love to have a female real life friend my own age. On the internet, they are about the same age as me (26 for one more day ;__;). I probably wouldn't date a guy younger than 25, but I might date woman as young as 20-21.

About 2 years older and 3 younger, right now. I'm not big into age gaps, and the idea of dating someone much older than me is unappealing.

Makes a big difference when it comes to friends/hangouts - I'd hang out with just about any age.

Never dated, but if I did I'd say 28 to 31, which is around my current age. And 28 is pretty much stretching it for me.

I'm 30 and I find that the youngest age that I'm attracted to on average is about 25. I rarely find guys under 25 attractive because they look too young to me. The baby face doesn't do much for me.

Which is ironic because I constantly get mistaken for being in my late teens and early 20s. My friends on the other hand are between 19 and 30. Most of them in the younger half. Although I think this is just because where I am in my life is more in line with them. I don't have a career yet and I'm not married with kids. Most people around my age have one or both.

As for society I get kinda weirded out with may/dec relationships. Just because I can't imagine what they could possibly have in common. I don't get what both people could be getting out of the relationship and I feel like there would be a lot of awkward moments. Like, "Hey, I loved x when I was a kid!" and "Hey, my kids loved x when they were kids!" Aaron Taylor-Johnson and his wife are head scratchers for me in this regard.

The "half plus seven" rule applied when my boyfriend and I first got together (we just made it), so I see it as a reasonable indicator. I've realized that I'm not interested in dating guys much older than me; I don't like what it does to the relationship dynamic. Hanging out as friends, though, I don't really have an age limit, as long as we have similar interests.

I'm 43...wouldn't date anyone under 25...upper range would depend on the person. (I'm bi, so gender isn't an issue.) Age differences aren't a big deal to me, most likely because my step dad is 15 years older than my mum.

And as for hanging out, pretty much any age from late teens on...if we have things in common or we get along, why should age matter?

if I could have been in high school -- no matter what grade -- at the same time as the person, I feel like I'd probably be okay with dating them. Four years younger would probably be pushing it, though.

I am pretty good friends with a 19 year old (I'm 26), but it does really feel weird sometimes if I think about it too much. Anything younger would probably be too strange.

That's such a stupid rule. Someone made it up to justify some age they were dating, at the time. If I like the person, I'll date them. My limit is age of majority and consent (like how in some states AoM is 18, but consent is 21, 25, or never), or +/- 20yr, usually.

I'll hang out with anyone, though.

I prefer people fairly close to my own age. Whenever people gush over how they like older/younger men/women, I've tried to entertain the idea of dating much younger or older and it just is so unappealing to me. I can appreciate people who are much younger or older and might even want to have sex with them, but I can't go that extra step and feel a desire to be in a relationship with them. I wouldn't want more than a 5 year age difference in either direction - I'm a few months shy of 35, for reference, so basically anyone in their 30s is okay, but the closer to my age, the better.

It bugs me that "your same age" never seems to be an option when people talk about the merits of dating older or younger. There are zero disadvantages to dating your own age.

For social acceptability, I err closer to the "divide by two plus seven" rule than I do in my own life because I don't really care that much about other people's preferences first of all, and second, I figure the older the younger party is, the more likely they have the experience and wherewithal to make decisions that are best for them and not be persuaded by the novelty of having someone be interested or the appeal of someone who can take care of everything (I think everyone should go through a period of life where they have to fend for themselves - you can do that while being in a relationship, but you need to be on fairly equal footing).

For friends, I don't care about age. I work with people with a wide age range and my neighborhood has people of all ages, so I'm frequently interacting with everyone from college students to retirees. I think having some friends who are either close to your age or in the same stage of life/going through similar things (like school, new job, dating, getting married, having a baby, buying a house, etc.) is helpful, but they don't need to be your only friends. (In fact, I prefer that not all of my friends are going through the same things or work in the same field or live in the same neighborhood - I don't want to "talk shop" all the time.)

I'll hang out with anyone! I wouldn't be likely to date anyone more than 4-5 years younger (I'm 34, almost 35) and how much older I'd go would depend entirely on the person. Honestly, my biggest fear with people 10+ years older than me would be stealth conservatism. Not that youth is any guarantee against it.

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