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Please talk to someone about these feelings, someone you trust. You mention a girlfriend; does she know how you've been feeling? If you don't feel like you can talk to her about it, maybe a doctor or a hotline would be useful.

Also, I'd suggest starting to look for other jobs, if you aren't already. It doesn't sound like you're in a healthy work environment (though someone had to have reported your coworker for bullying you, so at least one person there cares), and if you were able to get out of there and find another job, then your ex wouldn't know your new workplace. Keep a log of all the incidents of your ex harassing you, and pursue legal action if necessary; is the restraining order still valid? If not, do you want another? Keeping a log will help you if you need to pursue that recourse.

Try to hang in there, Anon. It's possible for things to get better, and there are people who care about you.

Thanks for understanding anon. I want to talk to her about it, but it's a bit difficult to bring up the subject to her without looking weak or fucked up. Her mom keeps pressuring her to look for someone else despite the fact that my girlfriend says she doesn't want to. But it's hard to see when someone she says she is close to keeps forcing her to choose other guys and says how great they are compared to me.

I guess so. I feel tolerated by the more positive ones more than anything. I'm trying to look for another job in a different location. It's still be tough out there. A few interviews in person, but no guarantee of another job.

Thanks for the log recommendation. Yeah the restraining order was made a few months ago. It got really bad though. This girl slashed my tires and keyed my car. I was afraid she'd do something more violent next time.

It's made me feel like a piece of shit because I know my girlfriend could do better. There's so many more people out there who could offer her more and sometimes I think if I take myself out of the picture she could be happier. Everyone could be happier without me in it.

Your girlfriend obviously sees something worthwhile in you and her relationship with you, because otherwise she'd have given into her mother's horrible nagging a long time ago. Whether or not other guys "could offer her more" in some respects doesn't matter, if she's getting what she wants from you. People aren't interchangeable, and someone who was wealthier or more popular or more conventionally-attractive wouldn't necessarily make her happier. She's with you because she wants to be with you.

I do hope you'll try to talk to her about how you're feeling. If she truly cares about you, she won't think you're "weak or fucked up" for having a hard time with everything going on in your life (and I say this as the girlfriend of a guy with serious depression, who has been suicidal before).

I'd also suggest asking her to talk to her mother about the tremendously inappropriate behavior the mother is displaying. It's wrong for her to constantly insult and put down someone her daughter cares about, and try to meddle in her daughter's relationship this way, and it's making you (understandably) feel awful. That's not okay.

I sympathize with your job-searching difficulties, and unfortunately the only real advice I have is to keep at it. Keep updating your resume, expanding your skills, and sending those applications, and I think it'll pay off eventually. Good luck in the meantime.

Yeah, if you've got an active restraining order against this girl, definitely keep a record of each time she violates it, and bring that information to the police. Stay safe, Anon.

If your health insurance allows for it, it might also be helpful for you to talk to a professional about these feelings you've been having - especially if you don't feel comfortable talking to your girlfriend about them right away. Sometimes medications can make the stressors that contribute to depression easier to deal with, and a therapist might be able to teach you some techniques that could make it easier to cope with the problems you're experiencing. At the very least, it sounds like having a non-judgmental person to talk about your feelings and problems with and who might offer you some useful advice could be beneficial.

Please take care of yourself, Anon. I hope things go well for you. <3

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