[ SECRET POST #2783 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2783 ⌋

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[cassandraoftroy]

A few of my friends probably had good relationships with their fathers, but the fathers' personalities were such that they triggered a fear response in child-me. Other friends' fathers were quiet and unassuming enough that they didn't make a strong enough impression to over-write my existing understanding of what fathers were like. The rest, I didn't really interact much with their parents (especially since I had an instinct to actively avoid fathers). It sounds like confirmation bias, but we're talking about an intuition and emotional understanding shaped in childhood, so confirmation bias is definitely a thing.

Part of it is also that, because my own father was never a source of any of the positive emotional support that constitutes what fathers are "for," I never learned to expect that from a father, growing up. Some people with bad relationships with a parent talk about feeling like they have an empty space in their life, or fantasize about fixing their relationship. I don't, because I never experienced enough of the positive to notice a lack; I just grew up not expecting emotional support or positive reinforcement from my father, because that wasn't where those things came from.