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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-08-23 03:32 pm

[ SECRET POST #2790 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2790 ⌋

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comradesmiler: (Default)

Re: Question:

[personal profile] comradesmiler 2014-08-23 08:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Are you really excusing fidelity?

Re: Question:

(Anonymous) 2014-08-23 08:46 pm (UTC)(link)
INfidelity?
Yes. I am. In some very specific cases you can cheat on abuseive or unappreciative or generally scummy guys if the possibility of happiness comes along. A long term relationship is not a promise for a woman to be someone's property.
comradesmiler: (Default)

Re: Question:

[personal profile] comradesmiler 2014-08-23 08:52 pm (UTC)(link)
There's no evidence to him being abusive though.

Re: Question:

(Anonymous) 2014-08-23 08:57 pm (UTC)(link)
Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.
And I'm not saying he definitely was abusive. I'm just suggesting we don't know what their relationship was like, or why she chose to do what she did.

Re: Question:

(Anonymous) 2014-08-23 11:06 pm (UTC)(link)
You don't even have a sliver of evidence, no mention, no nothing that he was abusive. Just a little hint? Accusing people of a crime without evidence just because you feel like it counts as a criminal offence almost everywhere. Guess what? Some people don't need a better reason to cheat other than "damn, that person is hot" and going aroung accusing the SO with made up shit just to get an excuse for the cheater is fucking bullshit.

And "Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence." is a grade A tinhatter argument.

Re: Question:

(Anonymous) 2014-08-23 08:56 pm (UTC)(link)
No. You can DUMP unappreciative/scummy guys on their ass if the chance for happiness comes along. If a guy is that unappreciative and scummy, and you find another guy who is so much better than him, you should be capable of growing a spine and saying "okay, stop, let's wait until tomorrow, I need to dump this asshole first."

And if a guy is abusive, then cheating on him is actually really dangerous, and you definitely need to find a way to leave him so you can THEN get your happiness without risking having him catch you cheating and then beating the shit out of you or killing you.

Re: Question:

(Anonymous) 2014-08-23 08:58 pm (UTC)(link)
"you should be capable of growing a spine"
Someone doesn't know how abuse or abusers work, do they?
Learn or fuck off. Don't bring me your victim blaming bullshit.
comradesmiler: (Default)

Re: Question:

[personal profile] comradesmiler 2014-08-23 09:16 pm (UTC)(link)
You're advocating cheating. You're the victim blamer.