[ SECRET POST #2793 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2793 ⌋

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Comments

Re: is this abuse?

[cassandraoftroy]

Your description of his behavior is a forest of red flags. He wants to be your only emotional connection, but then only wants to pay attention to you on his schedule, and shuts things down between you whenever you express unhappiness with his treatment of you. He uses guilt trips to make your emotions all about their effects on him, which shuts off your right to feel things or ask for any sort of acceptable treatment. He reacts with disgust at the notion of him falling in love with you, but doesn't want to allow you to develop bonds with any other guys. He refuses to respect your boundaries with regard to nude photos, a subject which would render you extremely vulnerable and which he's already demonstrated himself to be untrustworthy.

Run. Run fast. Run far. Don't look back.

I know that's easier said than done. You care about this guy. You feel loyal to him, to the extent that you're afraid of abusing him by daring to have feelings. You've invested a lot into this relationship emotionally, so cutting your ties now would mean a great deal of sunk cost. But he's hurting you, and doesn't appear to care -- and in fact, mentioning that he's hurting you makes him hurt you more. He has destroyed your self-esteem. The only way you're going to rebuild it is to remove him from the equation. Reach out to some of the old friends that this guy isolated you from, or make some new ones. Hang out with people who treat you well and care about your feelings. You deserve that.