[ SECRET POST #2793 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2793 ⌋

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Comments

Re: *sobs*

[a_potato]

I can kind of get that first bit. There's a difference between interest and passion, and sometimes it's hard to study something that doesn't fall into the latter category.

Are you okay with saying what your bad experiences with employment have been? I'll completely admit that I don't know whether I'll be able to help at this point, but I'd love for you to be able to get all of this off your chest, granted that you're willing.

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

Cold, unsympathetic bosses (aka "normal bosses" to the rest of the world) + being required to do things that were too stressful for me to handle = disaster. They would yell at me for doing things wrong because of my anxiety, like snapping at wild high school students to only throw one customer at me at a time so I could keep track (I was always so boxed in at that point that snapping was all I could do, I couldn't rein myself in any more, I was scared and desperate), and they would yell at me for leaving instead, taking a break, they'd guilt me about it and say I was irresponsible, but since these were required jobs as part of school and camp programs, I couldn't even be fired.

Re: *sobs*

[a_potato]

Cold and unsympathetic bosses aren't necessarily the norm. For the most part, my bosses have been the opposite. I'm still friends with one of them, despite not having worked with her for nearly four years. It's totally possible to come across someone who truly cares for their employees. The caveat to this is that I've worked in non-profits for six years, and I can't imagine that that hasn't made a difference.

It sounds like customer service doesn't jive with you, which makes perfect sense. It's incredibly stressful, requires a lot of emotional management, and increases the chances of getting a dick boss. There are many jobs that aren't people-facing that might better click with you.

So, my next question for you is...are you more analytic, or are you more creative?

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

I'm better at analytic things, but I dislike them and like creative things. Being stuck in a job I don't like for the next fifty years would be better than having nothing, I do know that, but it would still feel like being dead. My only passion is nearly impossible to succeed at as a career. Especially when you're both untalented and unattractive, like me.

Re: *sobs*

[a_potato]

You don't have to be stuck in the same job for 50 years. I've had three jobs since I moved out of the house; it's the new normal, man.

Also, I doubt that you're untalented and unattractive. For example, you've got at least one person out there who thinks your RP is the end-all be-all. That doesn't just happen.

Here's the thing: sometimes you've got to leverage what you're good at to be able to do the things you enjoy. It really sucks at first, but as long as you're doing the thing that gets your blood up, you can make it through. You have a knack for the analytic, so seek out a field in that arena, and make sure that you get to be behind the scenes. It'll shield you from a lot of the bullshit that tends to orbit around customer service jobs. Also, keep in mind that you don't have to be loyal to any job. You can always move; it's what most of us do these days. And in your spare time, be creative. Keep posting. You've got at least one vocal fan; you've probably got a lot more who are silent. And you're totally worth their admiration.

All of that said, what is your only passion?

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

I love acting. I can only imagine how stressful a career in it would be, but at the same time I love it so much. I get to be someone else in some other story and some other world for a while. I don't have to be me, I don't have to have my life, I just get to put my passionate feelings about my own life into making some made-up person believable, I understand them and they understand me. I have a lot of fun, I meet amazing people, and the praise I receive after performing doesn't hurt.

Re: *sobs*

[a_potato]

I had a funny feeling that that was what you were going to say. :)

My reply is that it might be good for you to focus on theater. You can work and be involved with your community theater at the same time, and you can indulge your creative side while still paying your bills. Theater revolves around competence; if you're willing to work at your craft (and I think that you are), then you can find a place that's willing to give you an outlet.

And I will say this: if you manage to find yourself in a position to work full-time in theater, it might not be as stressful as you think. I know a few people in the business, and they're perfectly happy, because they're doing what they love. If you get the opportunity, you should totally take it.

I actually have to take off now, but please feel free to reply to this and check back tomorrow, because I will respond. Whether you do or not, I want you to know that I believe you can get through this and that you're more talented than you think.

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

I'm going to go soon too, but I appreciate you and all the others who've responded and encouraged me. :)