[ SECRET POST #2794 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2794 ⌋

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Comments

For the "is this abusive" anon from yesterday

[(Anonymous)]

Relevant linkage: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/blinders_off_getting_a_good_look_at_abuse_and_assault

You're not abusive, anon. But your friend/not-quite-bf is. You deserve better than that, and I hope you find someone who is good to you.

Re: For the "is this abusive" anon from yesterday

[(Anonymous)]

DA

http://eqi.org/eabuse1.htm

Also a great resource for matters of emotional abuse. I've used it to help reaffirm and validate my own experiences from time to time. There were also some things my abusers did that I thought were perfectly normal even after realizing that a lot of it wasn't, and this site told me, nope, that's abuse too.

op from yesterday

[(Anonymous)]

thank you both for the resources, i'm looking through them now. i feel lucky to have noticed something off about my friend's behaviour, but i definitely needed the extra reassurance.

Re: op from yesterday

[(Anonymous)]

It's okay, anon. Part of what makes it so difficult to leave abusive relationships is the gaslighting:

http://www.thehotline.org/2014/05/what-is-gaslighting

Someone who's abusive will want you to stay--not because they love you, but because they need you to keep taking their abuse. Gaslighting makes you question your own judgment so that you'll end up relying solely upon the abuser's judgment. It's a way to destroy your trust in your own instincts.