[ SECRET POST #2811 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2811 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

You're a shitty friend. I'm not saying you have to find all your friends attractive but gross? Really?

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

They might mean "gross" in the sense of them having a shitty personality, not necessarily anything about their appearance. There are a few people I follow/know casually because their contributions to the fandom are awesome, but at the same time, I try to stay away from their hugely personal posts and wouldn't want anything to do with them IRL.

That might be shitty too, but you can't always expect a really strong friendship to be formed on the basis of liking the same thing.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, pretty much this.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I guess either if it's appearance based or personality based, I still think using the word "gross" in regards to a friend does not sound... great. Especially since this is apparently about multiple people? The comment just sounded overly judgmental to me.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, that was honestly how I read it. And I do know people who seem like they'd be unpleasant IRL. There's also been people I met IRL who didn't seem unpleasant online, but as soon as I met them... whoa.

But you never know. I had an online friend who always acted a little aloof online, I really expected her to keep to herself (we were meeting at a small meetup of sorts), but she ended up being the most lively one there.

Re: Confession Thread

[dreemyweird]

I don't think "following because of awesome fandom contributions" would qualify as a friendship at all?.. When someone says "fandom friends", I usually assume they mean people whose personality they find appealing.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

For some of these people, we actually do talk and know more about each other than just fandom stuff, but our conversations still mainly center around things in connection with the fandom we're both in (whether because of the personal interests I mentioned or just knowing each other on one site). It might just be me, but I personally regard "fandom friend" as a relationship similar to that and an actual online friendship as something where interactions aren't as limited, which is why I didn't think the original comment was as negative as others viewed it-- some of those online friends they mentioned might just be their friends in the sense of sharing and frequently communicating about a fandom.

I guess people's definitions of the term probably vary a lot, though. The fact that a lot of this stuff happens on tumblr, where blogs can be mainly fandom-related along with IRL drama, probably helps too.

Re: Confession Thread

[dreemyweird]

Fair point. I guess it must be partially my "friendship's speshul!!1" attitude I can never quite drop.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

A lot of people at cons and stuff have bad hygiene.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

This is true but there also a lot of people at cons who have excellent hygiene.

I also think even with that you need to be careful about how judgmental you are because there are legit medical conditions that can make a person smell bad. Most people that have those sort of problems are really self conscious about it.

Re: Confession Thread

[iceyred]

The people with good hygiene are outnumbered by those who haven't taken a shower since 2009.

There are some people with medical problems that make them smell bad. I doubt that every person at a con has those medical problems.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

I'm kind of shuddering to think which cons y'all go to. At the cons I usually go to, most people are pretty well-groomed.

Re: Confession Thread

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, there are legit medical conditions that cause bad body odor, but come on... how many people at a given con do you think that applies to? Mostly it's going to be people who haven't showered often enough or thoroughly enough.