[ SECRET POST #2811 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2811 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Are you me, anon? I've been going through this exact same situation. I think what a lot of the above people don't quite get is there's a bit of time lag between *realizing* the dysfunction and having the...whatever it is to act on it and step away. There's also 'sunk cost bias'--you know, you've invested so much into the friendship and walking away is just...it feels like losing all that effort.

Truth is, both sides of the relationship are unhealthy. Friend is sucking you dry, and you're....letting some kind of self-hatred disguised as need let this happen to you. It's a tough cycle to break because it's not all the other person's fault, but it's not all YOUR fault, either.

Be patient with yourself, anon. And try to be strong, because if your 'friend' notices you pulling away, expect there to be some blaming/guilt tripping flung your way. Just remember, no loving actual real friend would guilt trip you for having a life.

I wish I had more solid advice, but hey, I'm in the same boat, and maybe company helps.

[lunabee34]

This is a good comment. *hugs to you and OP both*