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[ SECRET POST #2814 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2814 ⌋

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Fandom or RL (or both), sad, funny or awkward.

One time a friend posted a depressing fanfic to her LJ; it confused me a bit because that wasn't like her. The next day she posted saying she was so sorry, but someone had posted something weird to her LJ. So of course I said something like "oh, that's what that really emo fic was!"

... it wasn't what she'd been talking about. Yeah, I still feel a bit bad about that.
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Not looking back very far, but I cringed listening to the audio of Daniele Watts' supposed "racist arrest" for being "profiled as a prostitute" by LAPD. WOW, I can't even imagine how embarrassed/horrified she must have been when the audio came out and showed she was completely full of it. I'm blushing just thinking about it.

The

Daaaaaaadddy, and the whole don't you know who I am?! just beautifully sells it.

But she seems just smugly sure of her own righteousness, and the usual circles are posting the usual knee jerk nonsense.

Re: Moments that make you cringe looking back

(Anonymous) - 2014-09-16 23:31 (UTC) - Expand

Link?

Re: Moments that make you cringe looking back

(Anonymous) - 2014-09-16 23:33 (UTC) - Expand

'Don't you know who I am?'

...not really, no....

Just goes to show those n****** and f**** will lie about anything to get out of the justice they deserve.

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(Anonymous) - 2014-09-17 02:16 (UTC) - Expand

I was at a party once with a guy in a wheelchair (due to cerebral palsy if I remember correctly). As the party goes on people get high and/or drunk, and I was quite tipsy myself, and this guy starts lamenting the fact that he didn't have a girlfriend.

"Nah, you'll get one soon," I said, "Girls like guys they can fix!"

/CRINGE

(I regretted it the moment I said it. My brain does not censor itself while tipsy, sadly, but honestly it seemed like I was the only one who was bothered by it. I still cringe looking back at it however.)

That is hilariously awful, OP. I also have the no brain to mouth filtr thing and I can imagine myself saying something like that. On the bright side, I can see it being an great gag in a black comedy (the joke being on your character), so there's that.

The time in high school my friend and I were talking about her racist prom date - and there was a black girl behind us.

(Looking back, I should've just shut her up at "racist prom date." Why would you bring a racist to a prom?)

The time I had to reenact the wedding scene from Sarah Plain and Tall. And it was with the gross kid. :C And to make it even worse the person I had babysitting my tamagachi, RESET IT AND I LOST MY DINOSAUR BABY!

My first response to a friend coming out as male and explaining that he'd like to be called Elliot from now on: "Oh. Okay. ...like the dragon from Pete's Dragon?" (For those who haven't seen the movie, Elliot is the dragon's name.)

I'd kind of been considering that he might be trans, because it was the only way I could see to put some things together, but I really didn't expect to hear it right then, and my mind went in the wrong direction. If it makes it sound less awful, he didn't seem to mind.

I actually think that's pretty cute.

I loved that dragon, adored it even, as a child.

the whole "character" thread thing a little while ago TBH. Ugh I feel so embarrassed of myself looking back. I thought I'd outgrown that shit.

also my high school years.

Fandom-wise, a casual fandom friend sent me a fic someone had written and asked me to read it. I wrote her back that it was clichéd and OCC for the characters and their relationship.

Can you guess who wrote that fic?

Ya, the person who sent it to me. When she replied back that she had written it, it took a full hour to sufficiently remove my foot from my mouth and reply to her. My lesson was, 1) never to even crack the door open enough for anyone to ask me to read their fic ever again and 2) if I have to, I only say NICE things.

I think that if she asked you to read it and didn't let on that she wrote it, she probably wanted to get an honest answer from you. Doesn't sound like you need to be embarrassed.

Ouch. Yeah, I don't do read-throughs for people unless I know for sure they're not going to flip at constructive criticism. If you ever do this again, a few tips:

1) make sure your concrit is to the point without being snarky or personal
2) quote and cite examples of what you mean
3) sandwich your criticism between two layers of praise
4) but don't lie or blow smoke up someone's ass

Sometimes finding something nice to say is difficult. Try framing it as "I really liked your idea" or "I thought you did X well". And don't offer to do this again unless you know what the fallout can be. Frankly, I'd be annoyed if someone did that and didn't state it was their fic. It feels sneaky.

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ketita - 2014-09-17 05:16 (UTC) - Expand

(anon from above)

One more thing. If your critique was honest, objective and not snarky or mean, you have nothing to apologize for. Sometimes people ask for critiques, but they don't actually want to hear negatives, they just want squee and kisses. That's their own damn fault.

Eh, if someone legitimately wants crit, then give it to them. Don't feel guilty about it, even if it's not a circle jerk of ass pats and squee.

The years I spent roleplaying and the emotions I stupidly developed from it.

Re: Moments that make you cringe looking back

(Anonymous) - 2014-09-17 03:43 (UTC) - Expand

Oh gosh, I have so many.

The one that makes me cringe the hardest was this one time, a bunch of Mass Effect fans were talking about the just-revealed achievements for Mass Effect 2. Bear in mind, I was still in my virulently anti-Thane phase (and was still a huge Garrus stan), so me and a couple other folks were cracking some pretty crass jokes about what Thane's achievement(s) should have been called instead. I joked that they should have used a certain Cutting Crew song's title for one of his (since I think at that point, it'd been revealed he had a terminal illness, too).

Then, someone -a really kind and sweet person I was acquainted with- pointed out that was pretty insensitive and was genuinely sad that people were making jokes about the situation (as I believe at the time, they knew someone who had just died from cancer, too), and left it at that.

After I saw their reply, right away, I felt horrible. Like, 'I think I'm going to throw up' horrible and regretted ever making that joke. Everything eventually turned out okay and water went under the bridge and all (and Thane later ended up becoming one of my favorite characters, too)... but looking back on it, I still feel a visceral sense of nauseated revulsion at what I'd said while hyped up alongside like-minded fandom folks. I might have made some crass remarks in the past and since then, but that one is by far the worst of the worst.

Fandom-wise, let's just say I was really dumb to the point that I had to delete most of the things I said on the internet later on because NO.

Real-life, I once cried in front of my whole class because a teacher gave me something like 72/100 on some exam (it was the first time I ever got a grade that low in anything). And no, I wasn't 10, I was in my second year of freaking high-school god damn, and they all had to circle around me to comfort me and I went on and on until the teacher agreed that I can retake it. HOW AND WHY DID I DO THAT JUST WHY THE EXAM WAS NOT EVEN THAT BIG.

Oh, so many from childhood. I was raised in a fundamentalist Christian household, and I was taught that being gay was a sin. I wrote a letter to the editor of the local newspaper about how horrible homosexuality is at about the age of nine. I realize that in the pre-internet era, living way out in the woods with no access to information, it's perfectly natural that I parroted my parents' awful beliefs, but man. It's in print. :(

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lunabee34 - 2014-09-17 01:56 (UTC) - Expand

When I was 18, I traveled to London all by my lonesome. My father had helped me book a hotel and such, but he had changed some things about the reservation or something so when I got there they couldn't find it. And I just broke down crying. Like not single tear rolling down the cheek crying, but full-on bawling. I feel so sorry for the guy working there, and he was so sweet and made me coffee and tried to calm me down, but I just could not stop crying and calling my dad every five minutes and was just really out of it.

After about an hour or so they found out what had happened and everything turned out just fine, but I'm still so embarrassed about the way I reacted.

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