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http://jezebel.com/when-1-in-5-men-have-abused-women-we-need-new-statisti-1635269941/all

why is this allowed to go on?

Because we can't control the way other people act, and apparently not enough people care to raise their kids right. Basically: Free will.

What do you mean by "allowed"?

Is this a rhetorical question, are you just venting, or do you think this will somehow cause wank?

95 percent sure it's radfem anon.

NAYRT

If this were true, I find it odd that they would be doing these link and short sentence posts.

I think they've done that before to instigate wank.

Edited 2014-09-17 00:43 (UTC)

Right, but if it was the same person, why switch how they do things, going from the thick of things to just these quick little posts to just sit and hopefully cause wank, since the other times no one really goes and agrees with the article.

switching strategies to see how much reaction this gets? Sometimes less is more.

I.e. concern trolling.

"The data is a decade old"

Uh, that is a pretty open question. “Over the course of your relationship, how often have you ever done any of these things (pushed, grabbed, or shoved; threw something; slapped or hit; kicked, bit, or hit with a fist; beat up; choked; burned or scalded; threatened with a knife or gun) to your current spouse/partner?” 19% said they had done it at least once. That could be something as simple as pushing someone away or grabbing their arm. And you only have to do it ONCE. Sorry, but grabbing someone's arm once is not abuse.

“Over the course of your history, how often have you ever done any of these things (pushed, grabbed, or shoved; threw something; slapped or hit; kicked, bit, or hit with a fist; beat up; choked; burned or scalded; threatened with a knife or gun) to your younger or older sibling?”

"At least once"!!

Abusers, abusers everywhere.

Your definition of abusers = people who understand how research statistics can be skewed by the phrasing of questions.

Lol, more or less.

I'm willing to bet the sibling thing is waaaaay more than 1 in 5, too.

5/5

It is like the infamous 1 in 4 rape statistic "study" by Mary Koss. The one where 73% of the people Mary Koss counted as rape victims said they believed they had not been raped. But their questions were so broad, the results were skewed to all hell.

At least once, nothing. I still shove one of my brothers around sometimes. (The one who's a little under two years younger than me and can shove back, as opposed to the one who's five and a half years younger and can't.) We don't bite each other anymore, though, and I don't remember ever threatening or being threatened with any real weapons (we used things like Hot Wheels cars) or any major harm like burning.

Right? My brother is 6'4" and I'm 5'2". A few of our fights, especially that last one when we were 18 years old, looked a lot like the one Happy Gilmore had with Bob Barker, but with more breaking skin and blood. He gave as good as I did. It's laughable to see that as abuse going either way.

Silly study.

Not to mention the fact there's sort of a huge difference between pushing/grabbing someone and choking, burning, or threatening someone with a gun. Those things should not be combined into a single question.

In the first year of my relationship, my SO and I both threw things during a really bad argument. So according to this study, we are mutually abusive to each other, even though we realized afterwards that it wasn't a good idea to throw things and haven't done it in the five years since.

I slapped my ex-boyfriend once. He shoved me once (a different situation). Those were the only times we ever did that, and I think we both realized after that we never wanted to go there again.

It was not a physically abusive relationship. It was people fucking up a couple of times and learning from it.

tl;dr yes I agree with you.

Because we haven't killed all the men on this planet yet.

#killallmen

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