[ SECRET POST #2815 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2815 ⌋

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[John Green]


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(Hemlock Grove)


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[Russell Edwards' Naming Jack the Ripper]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

"a fund they're saving for me"

Uh no. It's one thing to take rent money, or money toward expenses of the house. The rest of the time, they have no business managing your finances. You are an adult and they just need to back off on that.

My mother kept meddling in my finances until I was about your age and it caused a nasty mess when I had to track down a bunch of stuff that was in my name (okay, so this was an extreme example).

[jaybie_jarrett]

I think they think that because of my disorder and how it makes me less mature they need to do this stuff and go really overboard.

and like...in the past when I had my first job I got in a bunch of spending trouble and I had no rent. But i was like...really young and unprepared then.

[(Anonymous)]

Right. If you're a kid/teen, sometimes you mess up and you learn from it.

Are they worried you have zero financial sense, period? Or did they just not teach you about how to handle money (at the time of your first job), and now they're overcompensating for it?

[jaybie_jarrett]

Maybe the latter I think.

I remember once I over-drafted $90 over because I was already fined for $30 and didn't think that they would charge more because i was already in the hole. Stupid stupid STUPID.

[(Anonymous)]

But you learned from that, right? You didn't go back the next time to overdraft twice, did you?

It just seems weird your parents don't seem to be acknowledging the lessons you did learn.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah. I think so.

[diet_poison]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but autism is a social disorder, right? Everything I've ever heard about it indicates that autistic individuals are just as intelligent as, if not more so, than your average person. So saying that they need to hold your money for you is kind of ???. Like are you going to just go spend it all? Clearly you're smart enough (at least, you seem to be to me?) to make a budget sheet and put numbers in it for fuck's sake.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah. I mean if they explain what I need to do to do something then I'm usually able to do it. I just need things fully explained to me.

Like maybe if I had gotten a lot of explanations about how banks and money and checks work then I wouldn't have gotten in trouble with money.

[(Anonymous)]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but autism is a social disorder, right? Everything I've ever heard about it indicates that autistic individuals are just as intelligent as, if not more so, than your average person. So saying that they need to hold your money for you is kind of ???. Like are you going to just go spend it all? Clearly you're smart enough (at least, you seem to be to me?) to make a budget sheet and put numbers in it for fuck's sake.

All good points, but it's perfectly possible to be brilliant intellectually but not have a lick of sense when it comes to managing your money. And some people never do seem to learn from their mistakes. (I say this as someone who has more than once sworn never to overdraw her account again, never ever ever. I haven't done it in eight years, though.)

Not saying this is Jaybie's problem, of course. Unfortunately, it sounds like she has never been allowed a second chance to demonstrate that she's learned from her mistakes.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Well to be fair I've still had trouble saving my money but I think I'm getting a little better now. I'm saving a couple 20 bills and working my way up.

I do wish I got more of a paycheck.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Well, it's pretty hard to save much when you get to keep so little.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah ,especially because I do like spending SOME.

(also I find myself freaking out lately when my hours are low. "oh no am I being let go" "do they not need me anymore?" "am I going to be let go after I had one time where I got overwhelmed?" Is that normal?)

[(Anonymous)]

If they knew you were putting 10 percent of each paycheck (or even 5 percent) in a savings account, would your parents consent to take half of what's left, instead of taking their half right off the top?

[jaybie_jarrett]

Hmm...maybe.

(I still wouldn't put it past them to say they 'can't trust me' because "something something high school" or something.) IDK

Either that or just be like "But you need to contribute your share to the household." IDK