ext_33427 ([identity profile] degrees.livejournal.com) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2007-12-14 04:45 pm

[ SECRET POST #343 ]


⌈ Secret Post #343 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

If I may direct your attention to this poll HERE

EDIT: I removed a few secrets because it was just brought to my attention (I have a crappy memory) that people are being banned for being flagged for this kind of stuff. SORRY. D:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #049.
Secrets Not Posted: 0 broken links, [ 1 2 ] not!secrets, 0 not!fandom [ 1 ] secret revisted/link to fanfiction.
Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Saturday, December 15th, 2007.
Current Secret Submission Post: here CLOSED.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Re: 14

(Anonymous) 2007-12-15 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Feminine = culturally defined view of how a woman should act

But if a woman can act however she wants regardless of what is feminine and masculine

Why does she need to call herself a man to do so?

I don't know how much more "complicated" I need to be with this question. Saying "lol ur wrong" without explaining why I'm wrong is worthless and helps nobody, least of all yourself. I will continue to not understand just how "complex" this mystical gender identity is, and you will continue to be misunderstood, and the only thing that will have happened is that we both walk away with a more bitter view of the other.

So you can continue to be negative, ignore me completely, or answer my question.

Re: 14

[identity profile] fer-de-lance.livejournal.com 2007-12-18 04:19 am (UTC)(link)
a woman can act however she wants regardless of what is feminine and masculine

Okay, attempting to explain this in simple words: What if she, however she acts, *feels* like a man? If she has always wanted to be or felt like she was male?

This may get me flamed a bit myself, but I kind of empathise with transexuals because, whenever one describes their experiences or identity issues, it reminds me of how I feel about being sterilised.

I want my tubes tied and my uterus rendered nonfunctioning to the point where I am willing to pay a doctor to have it done to me. Not because I'm "confused" and want to "damage" my body; because as a human being, what I think and what I feel determine what I am, not my cells. In my head, I am sterile. I have never imagined any future in which I have children. I regard motherhood with horror. I think pregancy is disgusting. I used to think that I should have twins, just to "get it over with all at once", before I figured out that I didn't have to get-married-and-have-kids-and-be-a-mommy. Every answer I ever gave to "what do you want to be when you grow up?" was something active -- kids were never in that picture, even though it took me years to realise they weren't in it. In my head I am a nonmother, and I want (I WILL) impose that upon my body as soon as I can talk a doctor into it.

If you believe in a soul, call it that. If not, call it the self -- whatever it is in human beings that lets us add up our emotions, logic, and experiences and make a decision or come to a conclusion about it. My soul/self isn't interested in motherhood. And my soul/self is more important, and a much greater part of "who I am", than my body. Bodies change all the time -- twenty years ago I was one foot tall; ten years ago I was blonde; last month I didn't have a visible waist; in twenty years my reproductive hormones will take a 180-degree turn; in forty years I might be blind. Inside all of that I'll still be "me". Time is going to change my body in drastic and often inconvenient ways; I don't see why I shouldn't change it in relatively small, pleasing ones.